Would this comment annoy you?

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Had a disagreement with DH yesterday. For the last few days he has done absolutely nothing around the house to help me (he has 3 weeks annual leave). We have 3 young children - 6yo, 22 month old, and 7 month old - and I have been doing everything for them, and him, for days. I told him I was sick of him lying about all day and not helping me. His reply was that I seem to be overlooking the fact he 'decided to take over the night feeds to allow me a break recently'. I was pregnant at the beginning of the year and suffered a MMC, this is when he is referring to. As if I should be grateful he deems pregnancy and miscarriage a sufficient reason for him to tend to his children's needs. I am so angry and disgusted with him, am I overreacting or was his response is every bit as shit as I think it is?

I think you need to stop having children with this man.

Wow. He wants you to be grateful for supporting you going through something horrible. Surely that's a given.

I think in a partnership both partners should have equal leisure time. I think its disrespectful to sit around and relax while your other half runs themself ragged. So no not being unreasonable. When are your days off?

@tobedtoMNandfart

I think you need to stop having children with this man.

Very helpful

Shall we shove the younger ones back up her fanjo?

Yes OP it would annoy me. Just because he “helped” parented for some night feeds it doesn't absolve him from all parenting now

YANBU. He’s a fucking dick.
Sorry for your loss

Definitely won't be having anymore children!

I am on maternity leave at the moment. He usually does help out, does dishes, takes bins out, changes nappies etc, but when he's off I expect more from him. And certainly don't expect to be told he decided to allow me to do something as if he owns me.

The issue is he "helps out" thing is you don't need help you need an equally partner. They are his children, his house, his mess etc as much as it is yours.

That comment is awful, he needs knocking down a few rungs off his male entitled ladder.

Something about that comment makes me feel it's a superior dig, he thinks he's above you, and he's enjoying your weakness and needing "his help"

@Soubriquet you are absolutely right it was insensitive. OP I apologise. I am sorry for your loss.