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Taking food round houses

29 replies

AtLastEarwax · 11/02/2021 23:24

Ok

We are talking two household social bubble here.

Our 'bubble house' visits us and brings own lunch and food for children from a take away but without letting us know or bringing us any. Now I don't EXPECT anything or anyone to bring food & drinks, we have food & drinks for goodness sake but anyway... we didn't say anything, make our lunch and sit down. I was peeved actually that they decided to take over the whole table and left a gap for me and DH to put a plate but anyway

The above happened before Christmas, weeks ago. Below happened on Saturday

We are off to visit the 'bubble house' kids are hungry after pre-school. We have been invited for 'a cuppa' so unsure of food situation so pick up food. Arrive and get "thanks for ringing us and asking us if we wanted anything"

DH said he doesn't feel bad, there was no mention of food, it was just one of those things the kids were hungry. Should we feel bad though?

OP posts:
Gobbeldegook · 11/02/2021 23:32

No. What's good for the goose is good for the gander

Gobbeldegook · 11/02/2021 23:32

Cheeky fuckers

Original poster
AtLastEarwax · 12/02/2021 00:39

Thankyou that's made me feel better :)

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Mammyloveswine · 12/02/2021 00:45

Sorry I'm a bit confused..

Mammyloveswine · 12/02/2021 00:47

Sorry just re-read..how bizarre!!! Did you never say anything when they brought food? Did they bring food for your kids?

MaLarkinn · 12/02/2021 00:49

I would have asked as no way could I turn up with food for my own kids and not theirs, despite their actions.

I would never go to someone's house with my own food, I'd probably just eat it in the car or on the way if it was a McDonald's or something handy.

CauliflowerSneezed · 12/02/2021 00:51

Sounds a bit tit for tat.

Chloemol · 12/02/2021 00:51

No

Original poster
AtLastEarwax · 12/02/2021 00:53

They don't have children

No I didn't say anything I just said ooh lovely for my children's sake and it is lovely for someone to treat them. I found it awkward though sitting down with a sandwich in my own house!!! Wtf

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MaLarkinn · 12/02/2021 01:10

If you were just bringing food for your own kids, I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Can't you just say to them to check with you next time before they get food.

MechantGourmet · 12/02/2021 01:13

Are you their support bubble, or are they yours? I can't decide if yabu unless I know who is doing the supporting. (The support should bring food, surely??)

Mammyloveswine · 12/02/2021 01:31

So they brought a McDonald's for your kids but your annoyed they never got you anything? So they did bring food?

But you rocked up to theirs with food but not for them?

It's totally different providing food just for kids!!!!

FTM91 · 12/02/2021 05:46

What is a 'social bubble' Hmm

Aprilx · 12/02/2021 06:19

Never heard of a social bubble, no such thing in the UK.

I also cannot make sense of this bringing food. It isn’t normal to bring food to somebody else’s house. If I invite somebody to mine, I would expect to provide any food and drink.

Dogscanteatonions · 12/02/2021 07:18

So to get this straight, they visited you bringing food for them and for your children yes? Didn't bring you anything but did for your kids.

Then you visited them with food for you and your kids and nothing for them.

Your the CF i think - they treated your kids, you should have treated them

Elai1978 · 12/02/2021 08:37

The food is the least of your worries, assuming you’re in England, what part of “You cannot leave your home to meet socially with anyone you do not live with” don’t you understand?

SnowyBranches · 12/02/2021 08:44

The only reason you could be in a bubble with another household, if you are in the UK, is if you are a single parent, which it sounds like you are not, or the household you are bubbling with has just one person in it, which it sounds like it does not. You can be in a childcare bubble but it doesn’t extend to sharing a meal together, adults and children. Perhaps in some weird way your “bubble” house realises this, thinks of themselves as a childcare bubble, and is trying to mitigate by just providing food for the kids as not you so in some weird way they think they are complying because they are not socialising with you just the kids.

SnowyBranches · 12/02/2021 08:45

Although your second example doesn’t fit with that so ignore me

LucyLocketsPocket · 12/02/2021 09:03

Yeah, what the hell is a social bubble?!

Bouncebacker · 12/02/2021 09:10

I think you can be in a support bubble if you have a child under one? Is it that OP? But still what you describe doesn’t sound in the spirit of the rules. They sound weird with the food situation but we are in a pandemic and everything is weird - (you may sense my jealously - I’d love to go to anyone else’s house to eat - and wouldn’t at all mind bringing my own food!)

IM0GEN · 12/02/2021 09:17

Maybe you need to worry less about food and worry more about breaking the lockdown rules and potentially transmitting Covid between your households.

Gobbeldegook · 12/02/2021 09:17

Why is everyone going on about English laws? There's a whole world out there you know

IM0GEN · 12/02/2021 09:18

And you are going to get very little sympathy here from most of us who haven’t had a meal inside with another family in nearly a year. Regardless of who bought the food.

SnowyBranches · 12/02/2021 09:19

@Gobbeldegook

Why is everyone going on about English laws? There's a whole world out there you know
Well OP did refer to”a cuppa” Grin.
IM0GEN · 12/02/2021 09:21

The OP lives in England or Wales.

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