To visit father in law in school break

[muttimalzwei]

My father in law had a stroke and has early signs of dementia. He lives alone and has a carer every morning to get him up and ready and prepare him breakfast. He is not keen on having carers. One that looks after him is a family friend who is unfortunately off sick after an accident. FIL is now being seen by different carers daily. He is becoming more depressed and lonely. He lives 2 hours away from us and we want to visit him in half term as we feel it is important to visit him for everyone's wellbeing. I know this is not allowed but I still think we need to do this. AIBU?

Whats the bubble situation? If he lives alone and you have no other bubble then it is actually legal...

Surely it is allowed- he lives alone therefore allowed a support bubble?

Agree. If he isn't bubbled up with anyone, and neither are you, you can legally do it. If you are already bubbled up with someone else, check the rules on changing bubbles.

Is he over 70 and has he had his first dose of vaccine? Did he have it over three weeks ago? If so, you hopefully won't pose much risk to him.

100% a support bubble!

He has a vague bubble with his daughter who lives an hour away and his granddaughter who pops in occasionally

Yes of course you should go. And as pp have said, it’s even within the rules if you become his support bubble given he is a single adult living alone.

He's had his vaccination. I'm just scared we'll get stopped and fined on the way down. Just don't need that at the moment

Visiting a vulnerable person to provide support is allowed

Look into whether you could justify it under the "giving care" category. Perhaps you could give the other family members a break.

Some hotels are still open if you are travelling for legit reasons, but of course that's probably less safe than doing it all in a day.

He's had his vaccination. I'm just scared we'll get stopped and fined on the way down. Just don't need that at the moment

To be honest whoever stops you won't know that the person you tell them you are going to support as a support bubble vaguely has another one ...

@muttimalzwei

He's had his vaccination. I'm just scared we'll get stopped and fined on the way down. Just don't need that at the moment

I’d go, you are allowed to provide care.

I don't think anyone could condemn you for going. From what you say, he could really use the support and some friendly, familiar faces.

Hope he will be ok.

I’m not sure you would get away with everyone needing to go, one adult maybe if you’re claiming it’s for care reasons as he already has a bubble.