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DH used my toothbrush to clean his headlights

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BeetieBourke · 11/02/2021 21:05

Is that ok (albeit, you know, weird AF)?

He told me about it, some hours later, and threw the toothbrush away.

Said headlights were a bit murky on the inside (the car is an old banger) and he was trying to get it through the MOT without spending any money (which failed and cost us £300).

He says:

  1. He knows I dont like a tatty toothbrush and mine looked the oldest in the mug
  2. He assumed I'd have a stash of new ones (which, luckily, I did)

I think:

  1. He could have asked first. He must have passed me to come into the house from outside and fetch said toothbrush.
  2. He might have checked that we had a replacement. There's not always a spare. He would never think to buy a spare toothbrush himself.
  3. There is already a manky toothbrush under the sink for odd cleaning jobs.
  4. He could have used his own.

Yes = this is a thoughtless yet hilarious act that I should laugh off or,
No = he did a really disrespectful and mean spirited thing that he wouldn't dream of doing to, say, his mother or best mate and I should be livid.

I've name changed and purposefully not provided any other context so as not to load the question either way.

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NiceGerbil · 11/02/2021 21:08

Weird thing to do IMO.

Especially as he didn't know if you had another.

Why didn't he use his own brush or the special cleaning brush?

Ace56 · 11/02/2021 21:10

Does he know about the old manky one under the sink? If so, very odd to use yours! Especially if, as you say, he would have walked past you to get it!

BeetieBourke · 11/02/2021 21:12

He probably didn't know about the 'cleaning toothbrush'. If he'd opened the cleaning cupboard it would have been directly at eye level, at the front. This says a lot.

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ChonkyChook · 11/02/2021 21:12

Wow, you're below manky cleaning toothbrush in the pecking order. Ouch.

ChonkyChook · 11/02/2021 21:13

Cross posted.
Why couldn't he use his?

altiara · 11/02/2021 21:14

I think he could and should have asked or used his own.

BeetieBourke · 11/02/2021 21:16

@ChonkyChook

Wow, you're below manky cleaning toothbrush in the pecking order. Ouch.
Quite.
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LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow · 11/02/2021 21:17

hah....i shouted downstairs to find out whose toothbrush was whose....there's three of us here and there were SIX unidentified toothbrushes in the glass.

Anyway, now there's mine and two others, and the unidentified ones are under the sink for shower crevice cleaning and grout scrubbing.
so really, he should have asked first tbh.

Pyewhacket · 11/02/2021 21:17

You wouldn’t use your own , don’t be daft !

psychomath · 11/02/2021 21:18

Would have been fine if he'd a) asked or b) bought you a replacement, knowing you wouldn't want to keep the tatty one much longer anyway. As he didn't I'd be a bit annoyed. But as you did have a spare I wouldn't stay mad for long, unless it's part of a bigger problem.

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/02/2021 21:19

Next time you clean the loo use his, say you had to get right under the rim.

Ultimateblends · 11/02/2021 21:19

I would be pissed, but ultimately let it go.

foobio · 11/02/2021 21:20

I think its fine, he knows you like a new one so he's doing you a favour (on the assumption he did know you had a stash of new ones and didn't know about the manky cleaning one!).

lightand · 11/02/2021 21:21

My DH whisks away all manner of things.
A toothbrush would be the least of things.

Gliblet · 11/02/2021 21:22

Wow. Mine would be in for about two weeks' worth of 'I used your pants to scour the oven. They looked tatty. I've thrown them away, I assumed you'd want some new ones'. 'I used your pants to scrub the bathroom floor. What? I thought you liked new pants?'. 'I used your pants to wash out the wheelie bin...'

(Two weeks because by then he'd have run out of pants Hmm )

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 11/02/2021 21:22

I do that, if something needs a toothbrush scrub I'll go see which one looks like it needs replacing and use that. Though I would make sure I had replacements first.

FreezerBird · 11/02/2021 21:26

I think toothbrushes are their owner's department and no-one else's, so this would annoy me.

At the moment DHs electric toothbrush has conked out and he's using mine and changing the heads over each time. I feel I am no longer in charge of my own toothbrush and I don't like it.

Interestingly I didn't realise I felt this strongly about toothbrushes until the current situation arose. I am generally very laid back and have surprised myself.

londongirl12 · 11/02/2021 21:26

Men just get weirder and weirder

BeetieBourke · 11/02/2021 21:31

@Gliblet

Wow. Mine would be in for about two weeks' worth of 'I used your pants to scour the oven. They looked tatty. I've thrown them away, I assumed you'd want some new ones'. 'I used your pants to scrub the bathroom floor. What? I thought you liked new pants?'. 'I used your pants to wash out the wheelie bin...'

(Two weeks because by then he'd have run out of pants Hmm )

If I was the type to scour the oven, this would be an excellent move. As it is I'll have to satisfy myself with the idea.Grin
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