Filtered baby/toddler/children photos

[LiJo2015]

Im on a few parenting fb groups and i see quite regularly filtered/enhanced photos of kids - its so obvious and i just think its completely unnecessary. There is already enough research demonstrating the negative impact of social media on children (and adults), so surely altering to seemingly make your kids look 'better' is part of the problem?

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AIBU and a grumpy git too? If so - why?

AINBU and you find it equally frustrating? If so - why?

No idea why anyone would filter a kid. Creeps

Depends on the filter. Cute bunny ears fine. Full face of makeup not so fine

@CatAndTheChild

Dont get me bloody started on the bunny ears...

YANBU OP. I actually find it very very sad that parents go out of their way to enhance their children's features to make them 'prettier'. To me my/all children are beautiful as they are and if others don't think so that's on them.

In my view they are wrong for posting pictures of their kids in public Facebook groups, let alone for filtering them.

Maybe they wish they had furbabies instead?

I don't like it either. I think those stupid bunny ear filters are particularly awful - on anyone. They reek of insecurity.

Grim. I had a photo shoot when my son was 2.5. He had a scar on his forehead which was still red (still there now he's 4 and always will be, but faded to white).

She asked if I wanted it "photo shopping out". I said er, no it's his face! Weird to have loads of other photos with scar on and not these.

She did it anyway. Bizarre

If its a novelty picture it's not as bad, but I think we will see in 10 and 20 years time even worse figures of self harm, low self esteem etc in kids brought up where filters are available. In a recent documentary one of the children couldn't recognise herself in a mirror properly because she used fce shape so much. Very worrying and don't understand why parents would do it

It’s really weird. I don’t think kids should be on social media at all tbh, let alone filtered.

I HATE it, I decided to delete social media because I did it (amongst other reasons).. I put a filter over my beautiful baby’s face to ‘make him look better’ he does not need to look better, he’s perfect the way he is. Neither does anyone else’s beautiful baby, they’re all perfect.

I felt so sad. Now I’m not 😀

What kind of filters? Funny filters like the blue hair from thing 1 and 2 in cat in the hat = fine, changing it from full colour to black and white = Also fine. Done both, DS likes taking pictures of himself with funny filters. Personally prefer black and white photos to full colour.

Enhancing facial features or putting makeup on them = ick.

But then I think my boy is beyond gorgeous and would never change anything about him...except for his attitude...so maybe I'm not the best person to ask

My phone came with the filter switched on and it took me ages to work out how to switch the bloody thing off! I probably have some of my kids from that period that are unintentionally filtered 🤷‍♀️

YANBU I hate the ones where they put bloody mascara and rosy cheeks on newborns and it's so obvious and so unnecessary. From day 1 these adults are telling their babies "you are not enough as you are" and I hate that. Plus newborns are cute and it's weird to put fake makeup on them.

Yes I detest this! SIL does it all the time and it's obvious and looks so weird and bad I don't understand why she would. Everyone knows you don't really look like that and it just makes it look like you don't think your kids are naturally good looking enough for your social media.

I edit pictures to make them brighter or sharper etc, but I wouldn't dream of "enhancing" her features (not that I know how to do that anyway). But I don't post on social media either.

I see some on fb and snapchat and hate it, it’s understandable if the parent is with them and wants to filter themselves but when it’s a young child alone who doesn’t know or care what a filter is I just don’t get it