Ok,
I have not spoken to her for 4 years.
This is the story.
She used to live one street down from me, we had common friends, and were now and then hooking up. She moved to a bigger house outside a small town south of London.
She invited us to come see her new home when my oldest was 3 months old, so we drove down, one and a half hour drive. We were served a cup of tea. Then her dh went to work. She persuaded my husband to drive and look at a second hand dining room furniture nearby she wanted to buy, and as there was not room in our small car for tree adults and two child seats (she had a 15 month old), I had to stay behind. Never mind she said, it is just ten minutes away. They were gone 3 hours, leaving me with a 3 month old in a house that turned out to be totally empty of food and drink, all I had to refresh myself on was tap water. Baby screaming. My pacing the floors, they did not have much furniture yet. She had kept telling my husband, "is is around the corner", and "nearly there". I was really pissed off when they got back and just said, lets get out of here, I am starving. She made no attempt to get in touch.
Then, when my son was 1 year old, (and dont flame me for taking a one year old for a happy meal) I was in B&Q, it was a spontaneous visit and I spent longer than planned, and the nearest place to eat was the nearby McD. Her husband was the manager at that outlet. He came over to chat, his staff took my order standing next to him, a happy meal and a diet coke. When it became clear that I did not have cash, and they did not accept card, he moved away without a word, presumable so as not to offer to lend me the money. I left with a screaming child. (We eat in McDonalds maybe once a month, no big deal).
Here is a couple who invite somebody with a new baby to their home, serve ONE cup of tea, have my husband drive justabout to France and back to look at second hand dining furniture leaving me alone at their house with no food and drink, and are so bloody stingy they cant lend the money for a child to get something to eat!
And now this woman is sending me religious junk mail on a daily basis about "loving thy next" and yadda yadda, and I am reminded about my fury at their behaviour DAILY.
What can I say to politely make her stop?