To stop taking neighbours parcels?

[judgingcat]

Am I AIBU?
My neighbours are always having parcels delivered on a daily basis, sometimes massive things like beds etc and they are never in.
They always expect us to take them for them and it's beginning to get annoying having giant parcels siting in my hallway (which isn't very big) all day and evening long until they eventually can be bothered to come collect them. They aren't the nicest of neighbours either and won't even bother to say hello usually to us.

Would it be unreasonable and unneighbourly to refuse to take any more parcels? I don't understand why they can't arrange them for days they are in or get them delivered to their work place.

Yep refuse them. It is hard for the delivery drivers but too much hassle for you. I refuse unless it is one of two neighbours who are nice and they take in our parcels too.

If they can’t even be bothered to say hello to you, never mind thank you, then it’s very reasonable to stop!

Of course YANBU. Just tell the delivery drivers you won't accept or put a note to this effect on your front door.

We had a neighbour once that used to have parcels redirected to our house even though we had never spoke to them. I was on maternity so she just assumed it would be fine because 'i was in anyway'. Cheeky fucker! Yes stop taking them in. They can sort it themselves!

Put a note on your down stating that you don't accept deliveries for ndn

Sounds like your good nature is now being taken advantage of which is not on

I didn't think delivery drivers were allowed to drop at neighbours' houses since Covid?
Anyway, in your situation, I would start saying no.

I don't understand why they can't arrange them for days they are in or get them delivered to their work place.

I used to just work from home once a week and it was a nightmare trying to get things delivered so they would specifically arrive on that day. Most companies didn't offer that service and they had to tell me "order it on Tuesday and it will probably arrive on Friday" and then it would turn up early on Thursday.

And all the employers I have worked for have not allowed parcels to be delivered for security reasons.

But you don't have to take the parcels in if you don't want to, so YANBU.

God YANBU! We have the same problem. I don’t mind taking in parcels as neighbours take in for us on the rare occasions we’re out.

It’s the not collecting that gets me. Our hallway is small and narrow so any random large packages block the way. When I tell them we’ve taken in a delivery for them, the response is usually a distracted “oh yeah, sorry, I forgot.” How can you forget ordering a new bed or whatever?

@slidingdrawers

Of course YANBU. Just tell the delivery drivers you won't accept or put a note to this effect on your front door.

Yes, no need to ask on here,you don't need our permisssion but if you aren't sure please consult the 50 billion other threads on this. In fact I think MN needs a parcel problems topic to make finding those threads much easier

You're taking in furniture for your neighbours?! Jesus christ grow a spine. I'm surprised they haven't got you going round and putting it all together for them and decorating too.

They know you're a mug, that's why they keep doing it. They don't care about you. So stop caring about them. Very simple.

They are rude and ungrateful, don't do favours for rude ungrateful people, simple.

When I started a new treatment and got a 'shielding' letter I told my neighbours-with-all-the-parcels that I wouldn't be taking in parcels any more for anyone.

The fuckers still kept arriving.

So I downloaded an A4 poster for the door and have been blissfully unbothered since.

This would piss me off if they weren’t nice to me and I would refuse!

How do you know they expect you to take things in for them? Have they written you down as a ‘leave with her at number 36’ with the companies or are you just assuming?

If you refuse, the delivery people will surely just try another neighbour?

They’ll learn!

@Ch3rish you beat me to it.

Mind you, we could both have scrolled past I guess

I only take I. The parcels of the neighbour across the road, because they are at least polite to me. The rest have been awful to me, parking on my drive, blocking me in, shouting at me, breaking my fence, throwing rubbish in my garden, shouting at my children, the usual crap that shitty neighbours do.

It’s particularly annoying when neighbours are not even grateful.

YANBU. Just refuse. You get to decide what gets stored in your own hallway - you aren’t the local Royal Mail delivery office ffs.

No it's not unreasonable to stop. I'd be surprised if anyone says it is.

I don't mind taking parcels for neighbours who are working while I'm at home. But I certainly wouldn't be taking any in for those that won't even say hello.

I used hate it with a passion when my parcels were delivered to neighbours - I have a parcel box now, so problem solved. I would have much preferred them to say no than have me knocking on their doors at teatime bothering them.

I happily took parcels for my neighbours until a box was delivered that almost took up our hallway, and I saw them arrive home but didn't bother to come and collect it. I was doing tea and bedtime for DCs so it was about three hours until I was able to go across to them, the whole time they didn't bother. Have refused to do it since.

FUCK that! Stop taking them in.

Nope - you're not unreasonable to refuse to accept parcels except those that are addressed for you.
You could get something like this:
www.amazon.co.uk/Accept-Parcels-Neighbours-Stickers-Printed/dp/B00OGNXHZC?tag=mumsnetforu03-21
and attach it to your letter box.
Lets all delivery drivers know that you're only going to accept your own parcels/mail/packages.

@ginandwineandbaileys

I only take I. The parcels of the neighbour across the road, because they are at least polite to me. The rest have been awful to me, parking on my drive, blocking me in, shouting at me, breaking my fence, throwing rubbish in my garden, shouting at my children, the usual crap that shitty neighbours do.

Blimey. I'd look into moving if I were you.

Sounds awful where you live. No offence, but it really does...

Agree with @Ch3rish there are already a ton of threads on this subject.

Just say you don't taken packages in (to anyone trying to leave one with you for a neighbour.)

We do. I HATE taking packages in for people, as it's a burden. You have to keep it in your home, you have to have responsibility for it, and you have to wait for the neighbour to come and get it. (Or sit there/stand there and wait for said neighbour to come in, so you can take it over, in the dark and the cold and the rain, and hope they hear you knocking on the door!)

I NEVER take packages in. And before anyone asks, NO, I don't expect people to take them in for me. I have a designated safe space for my packages, where the postie or courier can leave it.

We got a package last summer, for a 'cheeky fucker' neighbour who moved in (kind of opposite us,) a few weeks before. The courier knocked their door and they didn't answer. (Weren't up even though it was midday.)

The courier caught my DH off guard, as he was in the garden weeding the flowerbeds. He said 'the neighbour at No. 10 has given you as a drop off point if they're not in, or they don't answer the door.' Annoyingly DH took it and brought it in. A huge package around two thirds the size of a fridge!

What a cheek! They had barely said a word to us (or any other neighbour) in the 5-6 weeks they'd lived there, and yet they had named us (at number 7,) as a drop off point for their packages, if they weren't in (or didn't hear the door go, or were in bed!!!)

That was the first and last time those neighbours did this. We saw another courier (a few days later,) knocking on their door and getting no answer. He walked over to our house, and knocked our door, and we opened the window and said 'we don't take in packages for anyone, and especially not in the current climate - with covid19. Also, they are IN, so just keep knocking until they answer. They must know you're coming!'

I mean what kind of person expects others to take their shit in, just because they can't be fucked to get their arse out of their bed?! As I said, especially in the current climate. I'm not taking someone else's package that's been handled by a dozen people, and will have to be taken around to someone else's house. (And it will, because the neighbour never came for the last one, DH went over to take it!)