To tell her to stop?

[Happycat1212]

My mum keeps buying me clothes or trying to! She keeps sending me pictures of clothes asking if would wear them, or just going ahead and buying them! It’s all stuff I wouldn’t be seen dead in, not my cup of tea. I’m not sure why she keeps trying to “dress me” It’s not that I don’t have clothes 🤔 she’s obviously doesn’t like what I wear 😂 I don’t know if it’s just lock down boredom as she seems to be at the shops constantly, I’m guessing she’s bored and looking for something to do as she must shop daily, so maybe it’s just something to do for her? For example she bought me a bright pink coat, I don’t like pink. She is now sending me a picture of a leopard print jacket, I wouldn’t wear leopard print, which I said to her, then she sends messages saying “Why not?” “It’s the last one left!” Trying hard to not take offence to it like she’s trying to dress me. Aibu to tell her to stop buying me stuff?

My mum does this but she knows my taste in clothes.
YABU because it's lovely she wants to treat you
YANBU because she's buying things you don't like

Go with ‘thanks mum bit I’d rather you treated yourself, I have enough clothes’

Or ‘can you put the obey in a savings account instead?’

Haha she reminds me of Bridget Jones' mother. Just tell her you appreciate the thought but you don't have space for more clothes so you can't take any more. Any more texts after that just say no thanks and change the subject.

Yeh she doesn’t really know my taste at all, I only really wear dark colours mainly black, she was commenting on that as well in a negative way maybe if she knew my taste it wouldn’t be so bad but she’s very loud in her dress sense (she has a bright yellow fur coat atm!) where I’m the total opposite.

Send her links of things you do like. If she wants to buy you something, it may as well be stuff you need/want. Or say you're trying to be more ethical and only buying from ethical companies, and send her some links about the Uighur women in China or microplastics in the oceans.

Now she’s sending me fur coats when I’ve specifically said to her in the past I don’t wear fur coats. That’s the thing she doesn’t listen, I’ve never worn one so she must know this. I’m going to send her a polite message saying it’s not needed!

Is she struggling OP? Lots of people seem to be shopping as an emotional crutch or distraction during the pandemic. Perhaps she is 'needing' to buy things so does it 'for you' so it seems less indulgent.

Otherwise I'd just tell her thanks but you dobt need any clothes as its lockdown so you aren't going anywhere and you gave a very different taste. It's not a bargain if it will never be worn after all. If it were my mum I'm rather she stayed at home tbh, and avoided risk.

Leopard print? This is why I stopped watching Trinny and Susanne. I was only a few shows in and they both said that leopard print is classy. Maybe it was ... like 80 years ago before prostitutes and Rosanne Barr started to wear it? I class leopard print as something to be worn with rhinestones, neon colours and so much make-up people think you are a drag queen.

I don’t know, I think she’s bored, she lives alone and goes out daily shopping, I’ve told her about doing online shopping but she won’t. The particular shop she is in is 2 buses away from her and she has a local one within walking distance but doesn’t sell clothes so she’s travelled out to the one further away. She buys stuff for my children as well which isn’t bad as they would love a hideous bright pink fur coat!

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Apparently it’s fine because it’s black and white! But it’s still leopard print. I said it’s a bit to kat slater for me!

I would tell her straight that she doesn't seem to get your taste. Show her something you love and ask if she would wear it. She says no. You say well this is how it is for me. Try and get through to her.

And send her some links of stuff you do like. A small chance it will work.

Other than that it would save you a fortune if she can keep buying things for your kids . Especially if it's boots and coats and the more expensive stuff!

I love leopard print and look noting like Kat Slater thanks!

It's obviously a comment on the clothes you wear but I would feel very guilty if my mum kept buying me clothes I didn't like and I didn't wear them.

Maybe tell her that the amount of clothes shopping she is doing isn't essential so she shouldn't be doing it.

Or sell it all on on ebay?

I tell her I don’t like them, I can’t help if she still buys them, sometimes she “surprises me” with them, the ones she shows me I do tell her I don’t like, but she’s very pushy and doesn’t usually take the first no, but I’ve never agreed to any of the pictures she shows me but when she brings clothes to my house then it’s not so much a choice. I find leopard print tacky, that’s my opinion