I think I'm just tired and I want to vent and see if anyone else feels the same. I had a baby just over a year ago and took 12 months maternity leave. During that time I cut my long hair into a bob - something I've tended to do every 5 or 6 years anyway so it was time, and I'd only delayed it because of the beautiful pregnancy hair. So I cut it when I was on leave. First cut was nice, second cut not so good but fine.
Today a colleague on a work call commented on it and said it was 'the first step in being a mum' - literally no one has said any nice things about it (though I think it looks quite nice, just a different style from hippy long hair I had before) - but I've had plenty of comments about how 'you're a mum now' etc. WTF?? unless I'm really losing my mind it doesn't look frumpy. can a woman not just cut her bloody hair and it not be all about the baby??
As a result I've gone from feeling good and happy to sort of insecure about my looks, like everyone's constantly just seeing me as a mum with 'mum hair'. and sort of pitying me. The irony is I cut it because it was a way to look after myself. I feel so sad. AIBU?