Background: I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years. During that time his work has been on/off, so I have been the financial stability and helped him out with bills etc. We each have children from previous relationships, none together. When he has his kids I look after them as if they are my own. During the time we’ve been together there has been allegations of an affair from his ex, which was unproven and she is now pregnant again, apparently with someone else’s baby... He was found on Instagram to be messaging women before.
He has told me he no longer uses it, but the account is still active. He refused to add me to his followers, his posts are all of him, his friends etc, no trace of me whatsoever. I’ve just recently found he is still using it. Is it completely unreasonable of me to be upset that he still, 4 years on, with all that’s been invested into our relationship... for him to refuse to have me on his social media, lie about using it, and furthermore not have a single trace of any partner on there?
I really feel in my heart there’s deceptive reasons for his behaviour, and I know without trust there is no relationship, but I would like the opinions of others to gauge whether I am actually being a psycho by letting this upset me before I confront this...