to think that SIL should have cancelled her visit?

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SIL and her family have invited themselves to stay again. They do this twice a year and after the last time I swore I would not have her back. She is DH sister though, so I gave in.

Last night I was up half the night with a really bad tummy upset. I am pretty sure it is a virus as I had a student this week who had this (which the mother did not tell me till after the lesson, but that is another rant for another time)

I am really not in the mood for visitors, and I was unable to get anything ready for them. Added to that, I am dreading the DCs getting what I have so I might have a few sleepless nights to come.

When DH phoned her this morning to tell her I was unwell, she said that they did not mind and that they would come anyway.

Then DH went golfing and left the DCs here. I could not get out of bed/out of the bathroom so they were left to their own devices downstairs and so when SIL arrived the place looked like a tip. BIL is v. pernickety when it comes to housework (he hoovers every day) so I wanted to have everything looking ok.

AIBU to just want to left in peace?

Well it seems like your DH is the most at fault here TBH. He didn't actually put his sister off and he also didn't cancel his golf game to look after his children.

I blame your DH too. Make sure for the next few days he does all housework and childcare duties!

No, YANBU to want to be left in peace, and to recover.

But you needed to have been pro-active in making sure that would happen.
So told DH to tell them that they would have to re-arrange, and be definite about it. Not just trust to other people's decision making.

And i agree - your DH is the one who should be tking more responsibility - not gone golfing, and he should have cancelled the visit.

your DH should have not gone golfing, i think he needs to shoulder some responsibility if it is his sister...

I am actually most annoyed at him, he knows that I have problems with his SIL but he is so annoying sometimes.

He has this thing that when he has arranged something that he cannot back out of it. This morning he had arranged to go golfing with a friend and did not want to call off in case the friend was annoyed.

He even went into the town to pick his SIL up from the train station even though there is a line that comes out to our village so they could have gotten the train out here. Even SIL said he needn't have bothered. He said that I cannot expect her to come out on the train.

Blu, you are right, I should have said that I would like her to call off rather than letting them make the decision. I am rather puny at standing up to DHs family.

SO your SIL cannot take a hint. What you should have done when you realised your DH was missing his spine, was to call you SIL and say that you would have to rearrange her visit as you were ill.

Of course, you shouldn't have to, but if you had, you wouldn't be feeling like shit with a houseful to entertain.

spend the entire visit in bed and make dh do everything

You are right, LLPJ, I am such a wimp. All of DHs family are quite forceful and I find it hard to say what I mean to them.

DDF, I might just do that.

They are off to a playarea so I am lying in bed MNetting. Could be worse.

Oh yes, DDF, that sounds like a plan!

I know what you mean, kinder, they are forceful and it can be hard but you have to speak their language!

I think you need tea, toast, chocolate and magazines

Stay in bed - that's an order. If your dh didn't want to cancel them, then he can be responsible for looking after them and the children. Nobody will starve, and your BIL can hoover your house himself if he's that pernickity.

Well I stayed in bed yesterday and am feeling better this morning. Actually by the evening I was much better but could not be bothered with them so I sneaked downstairs and got my laptop. Spent the evening snuggled up with MN.

They are all away out this morning so I have some peace and quiet. Now I just need some fairies to come and do my ironing.

BIL has said he will repair the lamp and the blind that has been broken for ages, DH has not got around to fixing. So I am feeling a little less sorry for myself today!

Thanks everyone, for letting me rant!

Rant away! I had visitors a few weekends ago and was struck by this horrible tummy bug in the middle of their stay out of nowhere. It was horrendous -throwing up and feeling really awful. I managed to host them on the Sunday going for a walk, doing a light lunch and chatting etc but it nearly finished me off.

Sadly I passed it on to my friends dh. However the upside is he has new respect for me now. He was off work with it for a week and didnt get out of bed....