Sorry this is long. Im tired and I'm angry.
My dh has lost two jobs in the last ten years. He blames everything except himself and the last job I told him he should get out as the company ran into (very public) trouble. It was all over the press and I said ffs get a new job because it's going to end badly.
He was so arrogant about it all and told me he's no need to worry as he'll get his redundancy payment. He'd only been there a few years so I can't imagine we'd have been rolling in it even if he did but as it happens the company folded and he got nothing but big fat unemployment.
He then got a contract job on less money. We had moved areas to a new town and dc had been at new school for a term before he lost his job. They were struggling to settle and we weren't in a position to just move back to our old town easily. When we moved dh said I would be able to give up work and live 'the life'.
Luckily I'm not an idiot and managed to get my company to allow me to wfh instead of giving up my job (prior to covid) I hate my job but it has to be done and right now I'm just happy to have it.
He keeps telling me now that this company are definitely going to give him a permanent job at some point.
Tonight I've said to him that no matter what they say it doesn't mean anything unless they actually give him a permanent contract. He said he is too important for them to let go. But yet they don't offer him a permanent contract. He's just sat with me arrogantly saying that he's so important they couldn't possibly let him go I've no need to worry.
I'm so angry. I've been through two of his redundancies and now he's sat there sighing when I'm so worried he's going to lose this job we need his wages too. He just kept sighing and acting like he's rolling his eyes when I'm saying I'm so worried about everything, I'm literally crying about it it's worrying me so much. Is this ok? Am I just a nagging wife like the way he's treating me?
I've said he needs to just get a new job now and forget this one they've had long enough to fulfil their constant 'oh sure you'll get a job soon' because it's only a couple of months left on this contract and I feel like he's being dragged along.
We are renting when we were supposed to buy when we first moved, our deposit is now worth a lot less than it would have been if we had bought when we first moved and I'm so done with his attitude, renting is also a lot more expensive than a mortgage, I feel like he should be sorting things out and reassuring me, instead I get told he's too important at his company to be let go that in just being ridiculous he's sighing and puffing away at me rolling his eyes. He said this in all of his jobs and it doesn't work out, I feel like he's insinuating that what I'm saying is not true. I don't want it to be but to me it makes sense why would a company drag hiring him out this way if they supposedly keep saying they'll give him a job. They said this last year and then at Christmas they said they'd have a contract by January.
Oh wait it's now February and no news. Imo it's time to apply for a new job. I'm so mad. Sorry I'm ranting.