to be p****d off with man in shop this morning

[bubblagirl]

went to local shop this morning with my ds 2.6 he does hios usual throw himself on the floor it snot so much strops more of a game in there now

anyway he started whining as has delyed speech this is what he does when he doesnt want to be moved so i'm about to stand him up a mention of what we will do when we get home always gets him moving about to deal with my ds

man not elderly say middle aged walks in before i know it screaming in my ds face to stop shouting oy oy oy at himthen proceeds to slap his arm

i was fecking fuming told him he has no right to touch my ds or to shout at my ds i was dealing with my ds what did it have to do with him

he then says is he ok ds at this point is 10 times worse at being screamed at by stranger i said well you havent exactly helped the situation who the hell do you think you are

absolutely fuming his 2.6 doesnt deserve for a stranger to be telling him off he wasnt being naughty as such and even if he was i was dealing with it just needed to let off steam as cried all the way home my ds was terrified

MargeSimpson

"oh please give us a break. He probably thought he was helping. In his day people probably did interfere with other people's children and tell them off. That's why everyone's so scared of teenagers now, cos no-one will say anything to anyone else's kids.!

• even so, at age 2.6???

Why is this in Am I Being Unreasonable?

What an awful, horrid thing to happen to you both. I'm really shocked. I have no idea how I would have reacted in this situation.

Reporting it to the police.

I mean, reprting it to the police would be reasonable. (not that i'm reporting it!)

By MargeSimpsonMyAlterEgo on Thu 01-Nov-07 19:50:21
'oh please give us a break. He probably thought he was helping. In his day people probably did interfere with other people's children and tell them off. That's why everyone's so scared of teenagers now, cos no-one will say anything to anyone else's kids. Trust me when your kids are teenagers you will start getting pissed off with screamming toddlers too.... '

I've got teenagers and I do get pissed off with screaming toddlers - but I SYMPATHISE - I DON'T GO ROUND SLAPPING THEM.

Margesimpson: Idoubt it was ever considered all right to slap someone's child when the parent was right there and Dealing with it. This is not a clip on the ear for scrumping apples, this is hitting a toddler.

Bubblagirl: Agree with people who say you should report it to the police. Your DS wasn't doing anything to the man or to his property, so it wasn't any of his business, and if he's got a short enough fuse to slap someone else's toddler then what else might he do to someone whose behaviour he finds annoying?

Actually. I agree that adults should tell off kids who are misbehaving. I think we all have a responsibility to children and the rest of the community.

HOWEVER!!!

This is kids on their own....playing out. Maybe getting up to mischief down the park - I think an adult should be able to say "Hey, stop that" and be respected and obeyed.

This situation was not like that. This was a BABY - yes, 2 and a half is still just a baby - with his mother, not an unaccompanied child messing about.

Bubblagirl, Tell me and all the other mums who have posted on here where you live, and you can point this horrible monster of a man out to us, and we will tap him on the arm and shout in his face! See how he likes it. Oh I am fuming here too! I feel for you, why cant people just leave you alone.

thanks for the beautiful eyes comment he is gorgeous to me lol

also he wasnt stropping as such he gets frustrated as has speech delay but the whol;e floor thing is a game in the shop now as shop keeper finds it hilarious so he does it all the time

all i have to say is ok mate up we get were going to go paint or whatever and he gets up he cant speak properly so sometimes whines but its his speech delay not him screaming he wasnt screaming the bloke was

thank you all for your kind words

i had to have a lookey at the wee mans Gorgeous eyes - awwwww beautiful

don't let some inconsiderate buffer wind you up- just a rude ole git really

MargeSimpson, I have teenagers and I don't get pissed off with screaming toddlers. I empathise with their mums and understand that this is what toddlers do.

I also happen to be "not elderly say middle aged" and "in my day" people did not go round assaulting tiny children for any reason, not least simply because the child was being a bit noisy and lying on the floor.

I really think this man should be reported to the police because he physically assaulted a small child in front of the child's mother who was dealing with the situation.

thanks all for being so understanding

i agree i should do something about it if i see him again i will tell community police officer if no cctv evidence

i think if teenagers are playing up vandalising or causing a scene people should say things but not hit and scream in there faces either as who knows what would happen

i dont think a 2.6 yr old with speech delay comes under that cateagory so i dont feel that it is acceptable for anyone but me to deal with my dc he wasnt even misbehaving the busy body made him start screaming

that is not right even if in there day they did say something you dont approach a small child in that way let alone lay a hand on them so thank you all for sticking up for me on that

and maybe if teenagers are led to think that screaming toddlers are annoying and to treat them this way is ok by there parents then maybe thats why so many young dc are bullied each yr

i think only teenagers vandalising should be looked down apon not innocent toddlers that are just doing what toddlers do and as parents i hope we would be more respectful to a mother who's child is having a tantrum or just expressing them selves as wehave all been there and not nice to feel looked down apon xx

OK I admit my post was aimed at stirring it up, but mainly because of all the talk about involving the police. Yes, I would have been upset and angry with the man so YANBU to be p*d off. Looking from the outside he MAY have been trying to help in the only way he knew how (perhaps he was treated in such aggressive ways himself when young?). Involving the police could end up with him being placed on a sex offender register or something equally bizarre. Would that make you feel better?

Great to hear that the shopkeeper has the right attitude and perhaps could support you if you encounter this man again.

Didn't mean to upset you Bubbla.

Bubblagirl - YANBU. What an awful man. Yes I would have gone mad at him!!! I had to have a look at pics too - your ds is indeed gorgeous!1

MargeSimpson - well done for the apology - takes guts. You also make a fairly good point on the register thing - this country does have bizarre ways of dealing with things these days. However he does need dealing with. No-one can be allowed to abuse toddlers in this way.

mistypeaks thank you very much for compliment of my ds

marge of course that wouldnt make me feel any better but neither did a complete stranger touching my dc

as i said he is speech delayed he was terrified and wasnt even throwing strops and i was dealing with him

i think if i was to see him i would make him apologise to my ds and leave it but if he ever touches my ds or someone elses dc after speaking with him then he deserves to be spoken to at least