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AIBU?

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AIBU to be reluctant to go to work in the current weather?

59 replies

JalapenoCheeseOnToast · 09/02/2021 17:59

Okay so I'm in East Anglia where we have had heavy snow for a few days and my road is a slushy, snowy nightmare (I took a walk around earlier to see what I'm dealing with).
I'm a TA in a school, and I live just over a mile away, and we have been shut this week and continue to be shut tomorrow except to those critical workers who absolutely cannot arrange alternative childcare - around 15-20 children are confirmed. Whilst we have been in lockdown I have been working 2 days in the school and 3 from home. Wednesday isn't my day in school.
I just received a message asking if I'm willing to go in tomorrow and I feel like perhaps IABU to say no BUT I have for a number of reasons:

  1. I am not a confident driver in ice and snow, my road looks horrendous and I would also have to travel down and up a fairly steep hill to get there
  2. DH is away with work so I am unable to leave DS9 and DD1 with him when I go to work so I would need to take them with me if I walked and I don't want to walk DD at 7:30am when its -3 (feeling like -9)
  3. I have a current issue with my back and wouldn't like to chance slipping and injuring myself further, especially when I am alone with the children for another 2 weeks and last time I was on crutches for a few weeks and unable to pick DD up at all so needed constant help.

So...AIBU? I'm fully prepared to try and get the car out for Friday when I am usually due in but until then I'd prefer to stay put and hope the road clears. The temperatures look horribly cold for a while now so ice is a real problem. I have gone above and beyond working well past my usual hours whilst working from home so I'm not being work shy, I just don't feel happy with these circumstances, but I also feel horribly guilty and that they must think I'm taking the mick since I do live a 25 minute walk away. If DH was here, I would walk (and just be desperately careful to not slip) but he isn't and I have no one else (and also lockdown!)

YABU - you should get over it and walk/drive to help the school, it's only snow and ice and the kids can wear a coat
YANBU - stay home until your usual day and don't feel guilty, it's not fair to walk the kids in such cold/icy weather

Hope I've given enough info!

OP posts:
RosesAndHellebores · 09/02/2021 19:47

My concern would be your back injury. But unless the snow was more than 4in deep, I'd drive. Are the roads gritted?

Okokokbear · 09/02/2021 19:50

I'm wondering if you all live where ifs really flat. I live on a little hill off thethe side of a hill which is about 4 miles long. In any direction on the untreated pavement I'd be sliding all over.

Cam2020 · 09/02/2021 19:51

Invest in some snow boots! I moved to a suburban area from London and bought snow boots that first winter. The walk to the station is very up and downhill and the footfall is fairly light compared to London where snow is almost instantly slush and doesn't really have that much time to set again. Haven't had much need for them, but they've been a life saver these past few days getting my daughter to and from nursery safely on foot. I have a knee injury so very cautious about injury.

Jolie12345 · 09/02/2021 19:52

I said YABU based on the weather issue. But if it’s your day off you ANBU

JalapenoCheeseOnToast · 09/02/2021 19:52

I've had a quick peek, my road is horribly icy already, the main road looks clear and all pavements that I can see look similar to my road (snowy and slippy) no way of knowing what the hilly road is like (and it's unavoidable). I've messaged someone I know who has offered and said I will go if they would rather not and will just have to be careful.

Thanks everyone!

OP posts:
lljkk · 09/02/2021 22:25

I'm confused you live somewhere hilly in East Anglia..

Oh well, been enjoying our snowy icy slushy walks in my patch of East Anglia (only slight inclines here, and a few snow drifts).

tutorwho · 10/02/2021 09:40

There are plenty of steep hills... Berners St in town for example. You would end up going backwards if there was no grip.

Our road is tight enough as it is and we don't get gritters. Someone on Monday shovelled their car out just to go out.. and I wonder why some of the roads are bad.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 10/02/2021 09:47

I have chronic back problems and I personally would go in, a mile is nothing to walk in a sturdy pair of walking boots or shoes and I've done it on many occasions.
Luckily I am on annual leave this week and don't have to go in as it snowed last night and there is a solid layer of ice on top.
My boss would not accept that as an excuse.

BarbaraofSeville · 10/02/2021 09:51

Your child's baby is napping outside in this weather?!?!?! hmm

Very common in Scandinavia and their weather is much colder than here of course.

On the matter of the OP, obviously it's easier for you to get there compared with those who live miles away, as you can walk, but isn't it more of an issue about childcare for the baby? Sorry if you've said about that.

Otherwise walking with a buggy to steady yourself and correct footwear, the risk of slipping is minimal.

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