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Another puppy or not?

27 replies

B3CKY3 · 09/02/2021 14:54

Trying to keep this short.
We got a rescue Rottweiler 6 years ago. She is lovely. As she became older and my daughter older/heavier/more full on (about 2-2.5yrs) our dog was rapidly loosing patience. I had to separate them when showering etc after a few incidents of concern. All my daughters doing but she was too young too fully understand.
Anyway our dog is enjoying retirement at the in-laws and we still go on walks etc every few weeks. Dog is happy, in-laws happy and me less stressed.
HOWEVER
I really miss having a dog. I miss the company (work from home), Miss the excuse to go for walks.
I’ve been asking to get a puppy.
Some family same completely unfair on existing dog.
Some same what’s to say daughter (now 4) won’t terrorise the pup. I fully expect her too she’s dog obsessed I’m just hoping growing up with a child will be more tolerant than our other dog.
I’m torn. I miss having a dog so much. I’ve had them all my life.

What do you think? Open to lighthearted inputs and suggestions.

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sunflowersandbuttercups · 09/02/2021 16:07

No.

What will your parents think about them taking on your old dog and you then getting a new puppy? It hardly makes you look very responsible - you only walk your old dog every few weeks but you want to take on all the hard work of a puppy?

Kiln · 09/02/2021 16:20

I have a 1 year old dog (second hand) and an 18 month old, it works because the dog has always been around young children but most importantly, DS likes her and is curious but not obsessed with the dog, and it's been enforced that he's gentle and respectful towards her and she to him. She doesn't touch anything of his, or stuff he drops, he doesn't touch her if she's on her bed or sleeping or eating, he doesn't touch her food. When he does touch her it's lightly on her back.
They are never left unattended together. I expect slip ups but that's why someone is always with them to reinforce. Both understand "no".
My old Rottie, even at 14 before he died had the patience of a saint in all circumstances, but I wouldn't tolerate him being harassed at any age even with 'love' no more than I would tolerate DS behaving like that with an older/frail human member of the family, he always let me know when he was uncomfortable and I always read the cue and acted appropriately. It's no different now, and both child, dog and cat trust me to keep them happy and safe.

To answer your question though, in your circumstance, I wouldn't advise it. I wouldn't have got a dog if DS was overly interested in dogs, I've seen so many times that young children get frustrated when animals don't do what they want, and they end up being spiteful or lashing out because they can't handle feeling rejected at that age, they have little to zero empathy for animals and as pp have said, can't read the body language very well if at all. If your child isn't bothered with the dog then this is less of an issue, but if your child wants to 'play' and interact with the dog and be 'friends' and the dog doesn't want to then it's likely to be upsetting for her and it's unfair to get a puppy in the hope that it'll be happy to fulfil that role.

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