Hi, first time poster and looking for advice as I can’t decide who is BU. Me and ex DP split 3 years ago, he has paid regular maintenance of £115 per month calculated by CMS during this time but doesn’t contribute to anything else ie school uniforms, bus fares, dinner money, trips etc. Now, Ex DP has landed On His feet with new partner and has now decided he doesn’t need to work full time as he can afford not to and is in 2 minds as to wether to tell CMS about his new hours as he thinks CMS will reduce his payments. He’s constantly on about it as if he is doing me a huge favour by not telling them (reduction in hours results in less than 25% drop in income) now would I BU to tell him that he should tell CMS about reduction in hours but remind him that on the nights he has DD1 he should provide for her ie bus fares to school, dinner money etc as at the minute he pays none of this and it’s all deducted from the £115 a month that he pays me?? Or is that right that what he pays me should cover everything even though he has DD overnight 3 nights per week?
YANBU - he should pay extra costs when he has her
YABU - what he gives should cover everything