How’s your diet going?

[Reinventinganna]

I have no idea if I’m being unreasonable, hence asking.

After a lifetime of disordered eating (thanks mother). I started a medication which made me put on weight. I really struggled with this side effect but went from under weight to ‘healthy’. It’s been hard to accept my new body.

Recently I started eating healthily, I have multiple intolerances and cut them from my diet, I had also never really had to consider what I ate before this. I ate to survive, not to feel good. I now feel good.

Dh works away and asked how my diet is going? My messed up past means that I have no idea if this is an insult (as it would have been from my mother) or completely normal!

Please be kind, I’m a grown adult who has no idea on ‘normal eating’.

I would say its a pretty normal question when someone knows you are trying to eat healthily. I have been working on improving my eating habits recently along with some friends. I can think of at least 4 times in the past 2 weeks where I have been asked or asked another this question. Good luck and well done for checking it out. Often challenging the automatic thoughts/ assumptions you make about what people say is one of the hardest things.

My mother used to ask this of me (especially when not dieting!) when I was proud of something or just happy with life as a way to bring my mood crashing down.