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I can’t be the only one that hates online clothes shopping?

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Karmachameleons · 08/02/2021 22:31

I am so gytted that high street clothes shops are shutting.

I need to try clothes on to know if they fit me or flatter my shape.

I need to see and feel the fabric - this is really crucial!

I need to see colours in real life, not rely on a rubbish computer monitor.

I also like to see what’s displayed tigether for inspiration, and I like to see what other people in the shop are wearing and trying on! (Yes, it’s nosy, but it helps give me ideas!)

I HATE online shopping and 95% of the stuff I have bought online has been a disappointment.

100% of my most favourite clothes were tried on in a shop.

SURELY I can’t be alone in this? I had so much been looking forward to post pandemic clothes shopping but it’s looking increasingly likely there will be no clothes shops left and I will be wasting my money on shitty crap cunningly displayed on a beautiful online model for the forseeable Sad .

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Ginfordinner · 09/02/2021 22:57

I miss the instant gratification of an impulse buy when shopping. It's not the same when ordering online then waiting for it to be delivered to try it on.

BarbaraofSeville · 10/02/2021 06:41

How hard can it be to agree on EU and U.K. sizes? I’m that anomaly that is a 40. I often have to take a punt on a 7 which could be either 40 or 41 depending on nothing at all it seems. Particularly annoying with drop down menus that only have whole U.K. sizes

Do you want to be a footwear buddy? I'm a 41, this size fits 98% of the time and I've just had to send two pairs of boots back to different retailers because, despite extensive research on the brands websites and different online stores that the boots were sold on that told me I was ordering a 41 if I picked a 7, which was the only choice, they were both far too small when they came and had to go back, at my cost because I didn't notice that neither store did free returns.

Yet if I pick an 8, most of the time its a 42 so too big. But with online shops there's usually no option to say 'can I have whichever size is a 41'.

Norwayreally · 10/02/2021 06:43

I honestly haven’t shopped for clothes in store for at least five years. I buy the majority of my stuff online nowadays and if it doesn’t fit, the returns process is always straight forward so it really doesn’t bother me. I’m young though so maybe that makes a difference.

FuriousWithTheNHS · 10/02/2021 06:46

I hate it. I loathe clothes shopping full stop as I need to try on about thirty things for every one item that actually fits properly, doesn't look ridiculous and I actually buy it, so it's tedious doing all the returns and it's a huge up-front expensive exercise trying to do it online.

TwirpingBird · 10/02/2021 06:54

Nope. I hate it. My MIL mentioned a dorothy perkins online sale to me last week and I realised I hadnt bought myself some clothes in about 4 months. I hadnt given one thought to online sales. I just dont think of shopping online for clothes. I love a stroll around a shop on my own with a coffee. I wouldn't be a big shopper in general, but without a physical shop I will only buy something online if I need it, not for fun.

Rainbows2021 · 10/02/2021 08:33

Life just feels like one big admin task nowadays. I did Internet shop quite often anyway and rarely brought much from the shop due to my size/not always being well enough to walk around the shopping centre for hours but on a good day I had the option! I will miss it.

ConeHat · 10/02/2021 09:39

I think that's right. Life does feel like a admin task. I must add that H&M is good for online. However they are also quite quality of filtering down to hundreds of each category. And their S M L XL sizes seem.to have no size equivalent. I bought a 2xl long tshirt dress as I'm a 20 and we could used it as a six person tent 🤣

When your chunky shops also assume your arms are like tree trunks. I could put most arm holes over my head.

I'm done with shopping for a while I think

Gingersnaphappy · 10/02/2021 11:07

I much prefer shopping on-line as I like trying on things in the comfort and relaxed atmosphere of home where the mirrors aren't tinted or tilted and where I can think straight. And I have the added bonus of being able to try on new clothes along with pieces from my current wardrobe.

I hate shopping in stores that are too hot, crowded, where they never have the size you want, where fitting rooms are tiny, where you need a different size and you have to get dressed again to go and get it because there are no assistants available and after all that bother, you have to then go and queue to pay of all things. It's all a complete pita as far as I am concerned. Taking things back to a shop is an absolute nightmare too.

Shopping on-line can be more strategic. It's like anything else in that it needs practice. Don't do it randomly but do it around August for winter and around March for summer. Like a pp said, study the returns policy and use shops which have made it easy and then be disciplined about returning things. Set time aside to do it. (You have saved time not travelling back and forth to shops and queueing!)

After a while, you get to know the styles and brands (for want of a better word) that suit you and you can ignore entire swathes of various websites. Ditto re: sizing. And sorry, but having done it for a while, there is absolutely no difference to trying on shoes or boots in a shop, to trying them on in your bedroom. Get a few towels down on the floor to form a catwalk and stand in front of a proper mirror in proper light. Equally , I am 5ft 8 and a half, with a very long 33 inch inner leg, and I have never, ever had a problem with finding jeans that fit. It just takes time browsing on line and the initial try on but once you have found the style that fits you, then you often find that shops make the same thing year on year in different colours.

[The only exception to this would be if you change shape very dramatically and you need to try on different shapes and styles to see what fits you best now. In that circumstance, being in actual shops can be very handy. But if your shape and size is pretty much fixed, then shopping on line is fine. It's actually probably fine if you go up two dress sizes. But if you go up three - like I have done - it's probably best to reassess.]

The main problems are the current pressures on postal services and the fact that shops are not finding processing returns to be economically viable. But that is already pushing savvy shops in to offering more detailed sizing information, personalised sizing models, improved feedback dialogue etc which can only get better.

Most of all I am a huge advocate of on-line shopping because of the choice available. Instead of being restricted to the choice of the manager and buyers of shops in your particular town, you can shop from a much wider range of stores. And if you need say a green cardigan to go with the rest of your outfit, you can compare and contrast models from Uniqlo, Esprit and Zara without getting distracted.

Gingersnaphappy · 10/02/2021 11:16

Forgot to say, whether you are shopping on-line or in store, do as the continentals do and cultivate a handy alterations seamstress who will turn things up, put a dart in here and there, ard a shoulder pad, replace buttons with ones you prefer etc. I'm lucky because I live in a country where this service is frequently available, attached to a dry cleaner, in the high street next to the key cutters, or its the shop which offers that service itself. So no, shopping on-line doesn't have to mean wearing ill-fitting clothes.

2pinkginsplease · 10/02/2021 11:26

I hate shopping online for clothes, I like feeling the material and trying on before buying. I’ve got clothes that are sizes 12,,14&16 and online shopping is just a hassle to return, (repacking , either print a return label or get a qr code then have to take it to post office. Why dont they just give you a return label with you invoice? And then you have to wait x amount of days to refunded.

And as for bra shopping online! Omg .

SaltyMagnolia · 10/02/2021 12:26

I hate it too, women's sizing is so inconsistent - I have 2 dresses from White Company, one is a size 8 the other is a size 12, both fit me perfectly from the same bloody shop!

TheGoldenApplesOfTheSun · 10/02/2021 12:46

Yes and no for me. I really couldn't find maternity wear to fit me on the high street, so had to shop online for that anyway - ended up having a pretty good experience with ASOS as they have easy returns and you really can try several sizes. Also ordered maternity underwear on Amazon as recommended by someone on here! ("Intimate Portal" brand by the way, they were brilliant!).

But I definitely miss shopping in person for some things - especially shoes. Am very lucky my feet haven't changed shape much during pregnancy, as they are quite oddly shaped and I usually have to try on tons of shoes to find one pair that fits. No way could I do that online so I haven't bought new shoes for a year.

I also really miss browsing in charity shops. Round my area we had some really good ones that would sometimes have great vintage or high quality items in my size... Sigh.

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