Hi everyone, sorry to add more doom and gloom to another day in lockdown but I’m looking for some advise and perspective.
DP is an alcoholic. He drinks from waking up to going to asleep, his job allows him to continue this during the day. He’s currently on furlough (runs a pub) so is about the house every day like myself.
Here’s the thing, he is very high functioning. He doesn’t often appear ‘drunk’. He will do building work around the house, walk the dog, work when it’s open, all while constantly drinking. So his argument is that he does what he needs to and it doesn’t affect anyone else.
But it’s still not okay is it? Admittedly there are a few other issues in our relationship that are contributing to my irritability with him right now but when I walk into the room and see him drinking vodka or hear him open a can as soon as he gets up I just get so frustrated. I don’t want to be caring for a man with health issues in the future.
He’s adamant it doesn’t affect me, and I don’t know how to make him understand the emotional affect. We don’t have kids. Anyone with some wisdom please?