Sorry if I ramble, will try to keep it short.
Been married to DH for over 30yrs, children grown and living independently.
DH has been furloughed on full pay during all three national lockdowns. I have worked all the way through (not from home) part time.
I do the cooking, laundry, and cleaning each week while he either reads or gets into his music, as he plays several instruments. I have asked for his help but he's always "busy". We have had words over this, I'm upset that he feels fine letting me do everything.
During last spring lockdown I decorated the house painting several rooms including hall, landing and stairs with vinyl and gloss. The only offer of help from him was for me to let him know when I'd be painting the stairs, and he'd lift the carpet.
There are jobs that need doing around the house, one of which involves climbing a ladder outside. He knows they need attending to, but chooses to ignore them. I would like them sorted but think why should I do them when he's sitting around doing not a lot.
AIBU for not getting on and sorting these jobs myself, and for feeling pissed off and upset each week when he sits back and let's me do the household chores alone?