Woke up this morning to discover a damp patch on the bedroom ceiling. Popped outside to check the roof and saw a tile had broken and had been letting in rain. Called a roofer I know and he is coming out later to replace the tile.
OH then looks up from laptop and insists on knowing who I was speaking to so I explained who and why. He then launched off, shouting at me, saying I was out of order for not going to him first, we were a team, a partnership, we own the house together and therefore I should speak to him first. In the past if things have needed attention in the house I have run it by him first and he’s replied “Do you know someone who can fix it? OK do that” so in this instance I simply cut out the middleman for want of a better phrase.
I was stunned. I explained how he has been in a bad mood and unapproachable for several days so I didn’t want to bother him with something I could easily manage, plus how he never cares if something needs fixing and leaves it to me. I should explain that due to my job I have a good number of trade connections so have people I can go to meanwhile he has a big drink problem which he is aware of, every so often he quits and for a week my child and I have to put up with someone moody, sullen and miserable until the drink-depression lifts. We’re currently on Day 3 of no alcohol so the atmosphere and mood is not the best.
He’s now all over-kind and helpful, asking if there’s anything I need doing today, trips to the shops etc but I’m left upset and confused and questioning if I really was unreasonable in ringing a roofer without telling him first.