I don’t know if IABU tbh but then I feel like
DP has turned it around to make me feel like I’m upset over nothing.
In the last few months DP has started answering me weird in certain situations that makes me feel like he’s being condescending/patronising.
The first time he did it I immediately just felt irritated by the way he spoke to me but gave him the benefit of the doubt, then it happens again weeks later and I called him out and said it sounded quite condescending can he please stop and just answer me normally.
He did it again last night and that with the fact he sat on his arse when he was meant to help me do something has got me in a foul mood.
So we woke this morning and had the argument and I told him I was upset because he speaks to me with a weirdly shitty attitude that I’ve told him before I don’t like and I feel like he does it to get a reaction.
So I’ll try and explain the best I can but written down it just sounds like a normal conversation- maybe it’s the time?
I asked him to help me declutter the upstairs of the house; the nursery was a mess, our bedroom has been neglected since Christmas and needed sorting. Anyway; he objected and said he would tidy DD toys downstairs. I said “no that’s not important she’s playing, this needs to get done upstairs please. I just want to get the whole house sorted”
His reply was “I just want to get the whole house sorted” - now my issue lies in the fact he said it in the same tone/way I said it.. but does acknowledge the fact I’ve asked? Like it’s his idea.. like he’s telling me he wants it done and I’m the one objecting? He claims he’s agreeing with me but the tone and the lack of ‘me too/yeah/same/okay/I agree/aswell’ there are no words of agreement he just says it right backgammon me as if I haven’t just said it and it’s his idea and I’m the one who doesn’t want to get it done.
It absolutely riles me and this morning he’s told me I’m being stupid and that he wasn’t being condescending and that he was simply agreeing. I explained it’s the way he does it and I’ve told him before about it - he claims I haven’t ever mentioned it and then when I explained in details what I didn’t like about it he spewed a “maybe I have something wrong with my speech” what?! 
Now I’m open to being told IABU because it might just be hormones (came in yesterday and we’ve been trying for our second baby so a little sensitive that I’m clearly not pregnant another month)
We don’t argue often at all; when we do have W disagreement we both end up getting it off our chest, saying sorry and moving on. But I just shoo’ed him off to work this morning as needed to get DD1 to nursery and it left me with a sour taste to sit in all day until he gets home. I will apologise when he gets home as I don’t believe in drawing things out longer than they need to but also I just want to know if I’m being silly or am valid for feeling like he’s being patronising?
Sorry for the long post 