To think I'm not lazy?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

I have two kids with my ex who are 10 and 13, both with additional needs. I also have an eight month-old baby with my fiancé.
He works 9 - 5.30 away from home. I'm currently on mat leave but will return ft shortly (have no choice financially).
I spend all of my weekday mornings homeschooling my 10 yo as he needs support. It is intense! I do lunches etc. It's not easy with a baby who has just started crawling. I do all of the housework pretty much. Cleaning all done by me. Washing clothes is me pretty much. Washing dishes all me. I have zero mummy friends. I also do all of night wakings which are around every 3-4 hrs.
Partner gets home and cooks dinner.
Today he got cross and said "Well you haven't cooked a fucking dinner in ages."
Am I being lazy?

The reason you don't have any time to yourself or mummy friends is because you are doing everything for everyone and you have taken on the role of main earner for your family. What exactly is the point of this rude, lazy fucker?

What’s he actually for? I can’t see the point of him.

Our son is now 20, but I remember thinking that my dh had the easy part working ft & that was without any other children/home schooling to factor in. Show him this thread!

Oh hang on. I knew your name was familiar. I thought it was your ex was the prick? Is your partner a prick too?! I must have missed the threads where that was revealed.

TheresOnlyOneJackieWeaver

What a bastard. What are his good points exactly? He obviously enjoys criticising you at every opportunity.
What post did you read? The OP hasn't said he criticises her at every opportunity.

YABU to have stayed with him, moved in with him and procreated with him. He's always been shit.

Of course not!

The 1950s just called and asked for your husband back.

I can't even imagine why you had to ask. for you, look after YOU op.

@Zerrin13 I knew I'd be the main earner when I met him. I don't have an issue with that at all. What frustrates the hell out of me that he doesn't realise exactly what I do day in, day out. Yes of course he enjoys having the baby for a few hours here and there and that's great, but it's not the same as all day, every day!
Lockdown has made things SO much worse. I wouldn't have had a baby if I'd have known about the pandemic but hindsight is a wonderful thing. It's incredibly lonely and boring.

@Zerrin13 All of my friends have much older children and I can't even see those friends in lockdown.

Many posters have asked what the point of him is? You seem to make his life extremely easy and he makes yours much harder by not taking responsibility. Are you looking for tips on how to change him into a nice person? That isn't going to happen.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Nanny0gg Tbf there is nothing wrong with me being the main earner. Gone are the days that was the "man's" role.
But I just wish he had any idea how bloody hard it is with three kids from 8 months to 13 years in lockdown. He gets all of the nice bits of being a dad whilst I'm stuck in the house 24/7.
Sorry to moan![/quote]
Of course there isn't!

But most 'main earners' (men) have a partner, who even if working full time, pick up the slack.

How many women on here say that because their husband brings home the big bucks, they do everything else? Even at weekends and the evenings when everything at home should be equal.

Yours just seems to cherry pick the bits he likes.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Nanny0gg He's OK with my other two although of course more involved with his daughter.[/quote]
That's fine when they're with their dad. But not when you're all home together surely?