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DazedandConfused27 · 06/02/2021 10:58

I recently lost my dad to cancer. It was horrendous seeing him so poorly. It's still very raw at the moment but I have been thinking that when things settle down I'd like to try and do something to raise awareness or help somehow in the fight against cancer.

There are fundraising options for the hospice they cared for him. But I wondered if anyone knew of any other opportunities? I've seen online campaigning roles on cancer research but I'm not sure what they entail. Does anyone else do anything like this? Volunteering or otherwise?

I can't really focus on anything now but I think in the future it may give me some comfort to fight against this horrible disease.

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DazedandConfused27 · 06/02/2021 11:20

Anyone?

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AlCalavicci · 06/02/2021 11:26

Could you contact the established charities like Marie Currie and see if they have any local projects that they need help with
At the moment there probably wont be any 'walks for like' , 'fun run' type things going on but you could get into training for them for when they do restart . It would also help you get a goal / focus in mind .

Sorry for your loss Flowers

OMGisthisforreal · 06/02/2021 11:48

I’m so sorry for your loss.
As your Dad was cared for in a hospice, I wonder if you know that hospices do not receive any government or NHS funding and rely solely on fundraising, bequests and donations.
I was in a similar position once, like you are now, and resolved to concentrate all of my future charity giving and volunteering to help the institution that looked after my loved one (and us) so well.
Every hospice has its own fundraising team as a necessity and most rely hugely on volunteers, so when you feel stronger you could make contact to find out how you can make a contribution on whatever scale and in whichever form suits you. You should find info on its website under ‘how you can help’ or ‘fundraising’ sections.
There are several national charities related to Cancer too so it’s worth researching to see if any resonate with you.
You can explore all of these various opportunities before making any commitment and at least you’ll feel that you are doing something so that you have some positive and tangible way to remember your Dad.
It is an awful time on so many levels to lose somebody and if you’re feeling a bit lost then try to find a person you can comfortably chat with and remember your Dad. It takes a long time to come to terms with such a huge loss and it takes time to adjust to living your life without them.
It’s ok to feel sad and lost and helpless and desperate to do something positive.

mrstea301 · 06/02/2021 11:49

Macmillan might be an option? In my city, they have volunteers in all of the libraries (when the libraries are open) and it's a resource to help people with cancer and their relatives, sometimes it's practical help but sometimes it's just someone to talk to!

DazedandConfused27 · 06/02/2021 16:32

Thank you for the ideas. I'll look into it all. The hospice definitely has an active fundraising team and regular challenges. Usually running or fitness related. I just don't really have any focus at the moment but I do feel like eventually giving something back would help me.

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Whatdoyoudowhendemocracyfails · 06/02/2021 17:40

I’d also suggest helping the hospice movement. They make such a difference - one of my parents also passed in a hospice - and are dependent on fundraising.

I’m sorry for your loss. It does get easier to bear, but not quickly Flowers

foodiefil · 06/02/2021 19:26

Contact your local BBC radio station and tell them you're interested in telling your story to raise awareness. If you're prepared to do that of course.
I'm sorry for your loss ❤️

DazedandConfused27 · 07/02/2021 16:43

I had an idea about trying to submit some sort of writing - poetry etc - somewhere. I've written a few poems about loss. But I have no idea how or where

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