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AIBU to hate breakfast in bed?

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ChazP · 06/02/2021 08:39

Just that really!
I’d rather be left to sleep than to have to sit up and politely nibble some cold toast when I haven’t woken up enough to want food. Plus the crumbs in the bed and the awkwardness of balancing a tray on your lap.

Prompted by 12 yr old waking me up at 6:30 this morning to “treat” me to cold toast, badly made coffee and a sliced up, slightly manky apple. Very sweet gesture, so I couldn’t tell her how much I really didn’t want it so I had to try and force down the offerings with a polite smile on my face.

To add further context, I’m just getting over Covid but have had to continue to WFH for the 2 weeks I’ve been ill. Partner has had it much worse so I’ve been doing everything in the house. I was really hoping for a bit of a lie-in this morning, but her heffalumping around the kitchen also woke her 6 yr old brother up. She’s now upset that I’ve made myself a fresh coffee rather than having drink the one she made. Can’t show how stroppy it’s all made me so thought I’d come on here to moan instead!

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namechange202086 · 06/02/2021 08:41

I love breakfast in bed so can’t really agree.

GetTheStartyParted · 06/02/2021 08:44

Very sweet sentiment but not what you needed.

Having breakfast in bed made by children at an early time is a very different experience to having a relaxed morning in bed with a lovely tray of breakfast.

I was glad when my children gave up making it as a 'treat' for mothers day.

Meowchickameowmeow · 06/02/2021 08:45

I hate breakfast in bed too, I don't want to eat or drink anything until I've had a wee and feel a bit more human. I'd be especially grumpy about it if I was still asleep and someone was shoving a tray in my face.

FirmlyRooted · 06/02/2021 08:45

Breakfast in bed is horrible, completely agree with you. BUT your girl sounds incredibly thoughtful and caring, I don't know many kids that age that would be out of bed at the crack of dawn making their parents breakfast

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 06/02/2021 08:46

Aw that's lovely of her but yes I'd hate that too.

I never have breakfast as the thought of eating when I wake up makes me feel sick (I've been told on MN before this means I have an eating disorder HmmConfused) so would doubly hate having to force food down

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ChazP · 06/02/2021 08:48

@FirmlyRooted

Breakfast in bed is horrible, completely agree with you. BUT your girl sounds incredibly thoughtful and caring, I don't know many kids that age that would be out of bed at the crack of dawn making their parents breakfast
She really is - she set an alarm to do it. And had learned enough from the last time she did it at 6am to do it a bit later this time, so 6:30 was a bit of an improvement...!
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CountessFrog · 06/02/2021 08:50

Bless her.

Mine used to force me to eat a slice of birthday cake at whatever time they woke me up. Hideous! I’d like to say I look back fondly on it, but I don’t!

ILiveInSalemsLot · 06/02/2021 08:53

I hate it too but your dd is lovely. It’s so sweet that she wanted to do something special for you.
The main issue is that if you rave on about how wonderful, thoughtful and caring she is to do that, she might do it again....Grin

Tomcullenisahero · 06/02/2021 08:57

She sounds so lovely 😍. But I totally agree, I really don't like breakfast in bed at all. Or eating in bed full stop, my DH likes to lie in bed in the evening to watch football or whatever and likes to bring food, I can't think of anything worse.

lazylinguist · 06/02/2021 08:59

I hate it too, but your dd was very sweet!

Sometimesonly · 06/02/2021 09:00

Lovely thought but I agree - not a treat!

crazyontheweekend · 06/02/2021 09:02

Your DD sounds lovely but 6:30 on a weekend is out of order!! I’d be telling her firmly on that one.

I love breakfast in bed, my darling hubby brings me blueberry pancakes and a cup of coffee every Saturday morning (he makes them for our DC). I’m just waiting for it now. It’s never before 8:30 though!

Hope you get well soon.

catsareme14 · 06/02/2021 09:03

My ex husband woke me up at 6 once with a full English breakfast. I was touched but also horrified , I can't eat even toast until properly awake . I didn't say anything at the time . Later in the day I addressed it & he sulked for days & gave me the silent treatment. The next weekend , full English at 6 again , complete with challenging stare . I ate it but repeated that I'd rather have it later . Repeat sulk by him . This continued sporadically until I left him . Passive aggressive breakfast anyone ? Confused

Peanutbuttercupisyum · 06/02/2021 09:04

My girls went through a phase of doing that! And they were only 7, 5 and 3 so there was no coffee or toast, but a massive cup of squash, bowl of cereal and loads of segments of satsuma and a peeled banana. Painful! But I forced some down smiling, and after the 3rd or 4th time I just said I’d rather have breakfast with them, downstairs, as they are such good company ...

LetMeStraightenMyCrownFirst · 06/02/2021 09:06

The crumbs alone is enough to make me shiver at the idea.

CaptainSirTomMooreismyhero · 06/02/2021 09:13

Crumbs in the bed? How do you manage that? Do you normally drop them all over the floor when eating at a dining table or with a tray on your lap? Grin

Threeleaper · 06/02/2021 09:17

That’s sweet and well-intentioned, even if I entirely see where you’re coming from, OP. My husband feels as you do about even beautifully-made breakfast in bed at an appropriate hour, whereas I would look kindly on anyone bringing me a cup of well-made, extremely hot coffee in bed. Not bothered about food.

CupoTeap · 06/02/2021 09:25

Ah bless her, so sweet and so caring.

I love breakfast in named, made by an adult, after a lie in, but yanbu

LOTM · 06/02/2021 09:34

When my kids tell me the evening before that I'm going to be treated to breakfast in bed, I always seem to wake up early and worry about the mess they'll be making in the kitchen ;)

user1493413286 · 06/02/2021 09:38

I feel like that; I like to get up and have a cup of tea and wake up properly before having breakfast. I had a boyfriend who used to bring me breakfast in bed then get offended that I didn’t want it.

LaChatte · 06/02/2021 09:46

I love breakfast in bed, but no earlier than 10 o'clock.

CounsellorTroi · 06/02/2021 09:55

DH and I have tea and toast in bed every morning, we take it in turns to make it.

Minecraftmadness · 16/02/2021 07:54

I’m totally with you on this. Hate eating in bed full stop don’t even like a cup of tea. Now I just need to leave enough time before I tell the kids so they don’t get offended!
Would much rather a nicely laid table and the washing up done afterwards!

suspiria777 · 16/02/2021 08:18

Yes, i'm with you. Breakfast in bed or even a coffee is much better on paper than in real life.

For me it's compounded by the fact that I wear a retainer/night guard that I have to take out and rinse every morning. And I like to brush my teeth first thing, before breakfast -- even if I could do away with the retainer hassle, I'd still have a mouthful of morning breath and plaque.

Eating in bed is a nightmare. I don't have a headboard because I have no need for one i don't enjoy sitting up in bed at the best of times so it's invariably painful and messy.

Hotel room service escapes a lot of these problems, but room service is nearly always overpriced and shit, so it has its own obstacles to enjoyment.

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