Describe a 'driven' adult to me

[Minniemime]

Watching a documentary about a ballet school and in awe at how focused and driven the children are. I was like this as a child, had huge dreams and plans and was very driven until things started to unravel in my 20s.

I want to know what it feels like to be that driven again...I miss it terribly. I'm just feeling really inspired.

Do you know any very driven adults? What are they like? What characteristics do they have? What have they done with their lives?

Usually single minded with a conviction & passion for what they want to achieve
Will put in the hours and the work to achieve desired goal even when it’s hard
Sees it can either be a linear or a indirect route, willing to go either path

Never sitting still, never giving up, sees set backs as opportunities to learn, thinks laterally, enjoys challenges.

I would consider myself driven. It has paid off, because I didn't have great educational opportunities when I was at school age just because of circumstances. It's taken me a bit longer, but I'm still under 40 (just!)

For me, it means having goals and really committing to them. I have a 10 year plan, a 5 year plan, and a plan for each year. I break everything down into what I need to achieve by when while still building in time to have a life. I make sacrifices, such as spending three evenings a week studying so that I can get my master's while also working full time instead of spending that time with my family because I know it will pay off for us all after a year or so.

I think the fundamental thing is making sure you're doing something you really want. It's really hard to be driven when you're pursuing something your heart isn't really in.

I was driven at uni and to get career started. First in family to go to uni
Lived in different city from boyfriend,moved about for jobs had a LDR
Worked really hard,put in the hours.
Happily Returned to work ft after 6mths - found mat leave stupefying

@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee Same! I don't know about you, but I was made to feel like there was something seriously wrong with me for not wanting to extend it any longer.

I did KIT and I knew who the locum was covering my maternity post.

No man ever gets asked..are you sure you want to go back? Is it Part time? Ohh full time...oh we’re you forced? No I wanted it

You are absolutely right. You'd think that by now people would at least have stopped saying it out loud to women, even if they still think it. My judgment came from colleagues as well as friends and family. "Aww, it must be horrible having to come back to work..." Negative. I was dressed and ready to go at 5 this morning. Adult conversation, hot coffee, brain switched on and being challenged, not a nappy in sight. Bliss!

Interestingly,colleagues not a single -ve comment.As everyone returns ft so it’s a done thing
Negative comments and judgement Only when on mat leave,in the baby groups and of course when joined mn

One sitting in the back of a car.

I’ve always had a plan and been clear and as blunt as it sounds I find difficult to countenance the detractors . I simply zone it out
My dp similarly driven so v compatible in that respect, we have lived different countries due to work commitments
Most significant of all I knew I’d not step down or make persona
sacrifice to support his career, why should I? See it on mn a lot the dialogue of well dp he didn’t want to step down, and two parents can’t have Ft jobs...why?

It depends, it could be a narcissist who doesn’t give AF, who will trample over anyone to get what they want, or, it could be a kinder determined person who had better morals.

Having a plan (1 yr, 5yr, etc) and taking all failure and set back as learning opportunities about how to do better next time (ie very resilient)

It’s an interesting question. I’d never thought of myself as driven and was quietly astonished when my stepdaughter casually described me that way.

Having thought about it quite a lot since then, I can only say what it means for me. I’m a perfectionist who has always had total commitment to my job. I was happy to stay late, start early and do whatever it took to get the best results. I was my own hardest critic and set high standards for myself and my reports. More than one person described me as “ the consummate professional”, I loved that. It was never about the money.