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To ask you to tell me about the '80s?

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Trulyatraditionalman · 05/02/2021 20:04

I was born in Dec '89. I absolutely love '80s music, and the way it is depicted in films and TV makes it seem like it was the most amazing decade.

I'd like to experience the '80s through your memories

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HeronLanyon · 06/02/2021 05:11

My big memories -
Shoulder pads
Falklands war
Thatcher and all that meant
Miners’ strike
South Africa and boycotts
Absolutely brilliant brilliant music
Channel 4 and new programming like The Tube etc.
Drugs becoming more ‘normalised’
‘Celebrity’ becoming different less talent based concept
Some progress for women’s position in U.K. much of it not fully realised or downright undone now by social media I think very strongly.
Heysel (sp) stadium disaster
City wealth - rampant new money.
AIDS
Lots of social change / sudden increase in wealth gap. Really clear lots being left behind. Designed social inequality increased. Winners and losers. Threats to education and health starting to be seen and felt.
Lots of change. Huge change in U.K.

HeronLanyon · 06/02/2021 05:13

Oh yes smoking ! I used to smoke on the tube - in all carriages - then they introduced smoking carriage in tube. And upstairs on bus. And on planes ! Before it being banned. Unimaginable.

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 06/02/2021 05:32

I left school in 1980 and went to college. It was nuts, smoking allowed in the building, taking magic mushrooms and getting pissed at the pub at lunchtime, mad parties in the classrooms at Christmas with the tutors.

Did receptionist and office work in London from 1982, you could leave a job on a Friday and walk into a new one on a Monday. That sort of work was everywhere. Everyone went to the pub at lunchtime and smoked at their desks. Black coffee and a fag at my desk was breakfast

Sexual harassment was rife, as a yoing girl I was judged (and hired based on) on what I looked like. A girl in my office was sacked after going for what she thought was a 'working' lunch with the owner of our company and didn't 'oblige' when he made a pass at her. He slept with most of the girls in the office as if it was his entitlement. We just laughed about it as if it wasn't a thing. Unbelievable now.

100% mortgages, bought my first flat for £41,000 aged 22 then interest rates shot up to 17% or something mad and everyone went into negative equity. Many friends had their flats repossessed.

There was a sense of optimism in the 80s, a sense that we were all going to do better financially than our parents, a sense that you could achieve whatever you wanted to.

Permed back-combed hair, shoulder pads, white stilettoes, 18-30s holidays, and lots of parties ...

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 06/02/2021 05:35

Oh and smoking sections on airplanes and in cinemas.

Emeraldrabbittail · 06/02/2021 06:23

I remember being very young in the 80's and getting a duvet. We had a catalogue rep who came round with things in the back of his car. Which is where my first duvet came from. My mum had the full sales pitch about duvets. She spent a fortune getting us all one. I think I got to pick a duvet cover from the car boot.

I remember signs up at my primary school about saying no to the poll tax. I also heard about riots and people being imprisoned for not paying it. Which concerned me alot because my parents refused to pay.

All the children on my street would hang around/play together. All different ages. Our houses backed on to a large grassy area with a few large trees. We spent all our time playing outside and climbing the trees. We only stayed indoors on rainy days. We had an out building that we turned into a club house everyone gathered there. Summer was hot and seemed to last forever.

Little bottles of milk at school. Do they still do that? We had a fairy in my teachers cupboard that sometimes turned the milk chocolate or strawberry.

katscamel · 06/02/2021 06:34

On TV there was Grange Hill, Top of the Pops, Eastenders and Treasure Hunt... and the Saturday morning programmes like Saturday Superstore (think that's what it was called)...and Neighbours... curly haired Kylie and the wedding of her and Jason Donovan (as Scott and Charlene).

We had magazines like Smash Hits.... which was religiously bought for song lyrics and posters, Girl which though I used to get I cant remember much about, Mizz, Just 17, and when I was 14/15 I used to get Raw and Metal Hammer (for Rock/Metal).
I know every generation says this but the music really was great and had a massive influence on fashion. Punk was still around and the New Romantics had guys in frilly shirts and eye liner. Make up was Avons spectrum range or Rimmel and there were a few frosted colours everyone wore.
Then we had all the SAW bands... Kylie, Jason, Rick Astley, etc all produced to the same formula and dominated the charts.... check out Nick Kamen.
Shopping was done in C&A, BHS, Snob (clothes), Freeman Hardy Willis (shoes), Our Price, Woolworths and WH Smith's for records (a 7" was 75p). Woolworths was also the place many teens when to shoplift.
Of course it wasn't all good, we did become aware of the dangers of drugs, glue sniffing and AIDS.
There were disasters...national and international, the biggest probably being the problems Ethiopia were having but we lived in a teenage bubble.

LakieLady · 06/02/2021 07:03

For me, it was a decade of political activism. The anti-apartheid vigil outside South Africa House (which was where I first met Jeremy Corbyn), Greenham Common, standing outside railway stations each rush hour to collect money for the striking miners' families, marching in support of print workers, abortion rights and against the National Front. Racism wasn't even casual, it was overt and blatant, as was sexism.

Houses were cheap, but interest rates were high. I bought my first house in 1982, and at one point had a lodger and 2 p/t jobs as well as my f/t one just to cover the mortgage (I remortgaged and got a deal at 13.5% interest, this was regarded as a fantastic deal at the time). And things like furniture, appliances etc were really expensive, my house was full of second hand stuff and I first got a brand new bed in 1991.

The housing thing went tits up at the end of the decade, prices crashed, people couldn't sell because they owed more on their mortgages than the house was worth and thousands of people's homes were repossessed. (My house went down in value from £85k to £49k, but I'd bought it for a lot less, thankfully).

I lived in South London and, until they were abolished, the GLC supported some great events - comedy and music, one-day festivals on London's commons etc. We'd sometimes see several bands in a week and saw people like the Communards, Benjamin Zephaniah and John Cooper Clark at a pub in Brixton.

And the music was just great. The clothes and hair, not so much. Grin

Dippingoutofdowndawg · 06/02/2021 07:29

[quote Scarby9]**@Tootsey11* and @Dippingoutofdowndawg*
Paco?[/quote]
Thanks. I woke up at 3am and remembered Paco 😁. A wannabe Benetton iirc

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/02/2021 07:33

It was a very strange decade. The fear that something bad was going to happen to you was omnipresent but just accepted. The cold war was very real and frightening, IRA bombings and feeling terribly sorry for the people of Northern Ireland, the IRA trying to kill Maggie, riots and of course AIDS. Then further afield, famine, epidemics and war, Saddam Hussein and the Anfal genocide. It was a time of feeling very impotent... part of that will have been as I was an older child / young teen.

Television for children was so sparse and so few channels (3 then 4 by the end of the decade) that if you wanted to watch tv, you watched adult stuff. The news was on at 8 or 10 pm and we all watched the news. And this is why we all knew what was going on in the world unlike the majority of kids of today, who spends their time streaming Netflix and so forth. This is why the world seemed so very frightening to me and the house pricing boom led me to fear that I would never be able to afford my own home even before I had left school.

There was a drive to get kids into YTS schemes and apprenticeships because going on the dole was more of a life choice for many (not all) in my relatively wealthy southern town. It was a place, where you could walk out of a job one day and be in one the next. There was a massive north / south divide on this front and London centric Maggie was busy decimating industry. The government even threatened to make YTS compulsory, a lot of employers were exploiting youngsters then getting rid of them after 2 years. As a result, on Thursday 25th April 1985, a lot of school kids went on strike over it. There were over 1000 of us at school and one day, we all sat in the playground and refused to go to lessons. I just looked up the date and the numbers involved, an estimated 250,000 went on strike that day. You imagine organising that with zero social media!

Whatever happened to me, I couldn’t talk to my parents about. I was very disconnected from them, which wasn’t uncommon at the time. We were very much left to our own devices. Mental health really wasn’t a thing. I was one of the kids, who rang and told my mother where I was... I had to ask to use the phone to make a quick call from people’s houses. But by 13, I was going off on long walks through the countryside to villages miles away for hours. Maybe that was normal, I know my 12 yo dd is starting to want to do the same...

Everything was far more expensive because a lot was made in Britain and imported goods from China wasn’t yet a thing. Japan was the up and coming tech country at the time with a lot of electronics coming from there and Japanese labour costs were / are a lot higher. Our first VHS video recorder cost £400! That was in maybe 1984.

We started secondary in the equivalent of yr 6. At that time, loads of kids piled on the school field behind and building and to smoke at break and lunchtime and some of the older girls smoked in the loos, sitting on the massive sanitary bins. It was a scary time to be a yr6 or 7. By the time I’d left, it had been all but stamped out. Fights were common at lunchtime and you'd head the cry ‘fight, fight, fight’ and everyone would pile onto the field. Kicking someone’s head in meant literally that.

Teaching was diabolical at my school. It would have considered failing even in those days had such benchmarks existed. The top set maths teacher spent more time talking about his wife than teaching and gave the more sensible kids the dubious pleasure of walking to the bank with bagfuls of petty change from about 14 during the lesson. I got to do that one twice! I later heard he’d been promoted to head of maths. 🤯 Kids in my English class decided to make it their mission to get the lovely old lady, who couldn’t control us to cry one day. From the equivalent of year 10, we were allowed to leave school at lunchtime and go for walks. We often used to go to town and sometimes buy our lunch from the chip shop. I remember buying bags of crisps from M&S. If we didn’t want to go further afield, we’d sit in the cemetery and there were local complaints, which pissed me off because we would just go and sit on the bench and bask in the sun and took our rubbish away.

You’ve heard loads about the brilliant and diverse music and dandruff lighting, hair (I don’t think anyone mentioned the new invention of hair mousse and even better, coloured hair mousse) and going out. It was no different for me except that I became one of the depressed ones mid teens and went full on goth. As we were allowed out at lunch and no one stopped kids from buying booze, a friend and I sometimes would buy a can or a couple of times, two cans of the highest strength bitter we could find and we’d return for the last 2 hours of lessons half cut. By 15, nights out consisted of buying litre bottle of bitter, drinking it with a straw, walking to town and having a few pints in the pub. I was stick thin and hardly ate. Then to make matters worse, amongst all of this, one of my parents died.

By the end of the decade, I was at university. Life became much easier in some ways. But I went north and none of the places I could afford had central heating or double glazing. Some had a coin meter. I was one of the lucky ones to have a car that I’d save up to pay for. When I first arrived at university, I didn’t seem finding car parks and parked under, what I thought was the council offices, ignored the no parking signs and went to join the 2 hour long queue to register. Anyway, a senior lecturer came and found me in the queue. The bomb squad were there and had evacuated the building. It was actually big block of flats. The shame. The residents heckling me. The lecturer told me the bomb squad were around doing exercises so not to worry too much. Idk if that was true or not. All I got told by the bomb squad was they would have blown my car up had I not returned in the next hour and a telling off thank goodness! But just to show you the reaction of people today to back then....

EdgeOfACoin · 06/02/2021 07:50

I turned 7 in 1989. In the 80s I had Care Bears, My Little Pony and a Cabbage Patch Doll.

At 4 I got a proper bed for the first time - it had a duvet. I remember my parents always had a duvet. My parents had central heating put in when I was born, so don't remember a time without it.

At the park I remember seeing older teens/20-somethings with mohawks, which both fascinated me and intimidated me.

I was too young to be aware of the AIDS situation.

I was scared of the IRA leaving bombs on the Tube. Having Tubes delayed or cancelled due to IRA bomb threats was fairly common.

I had never known anyone other than Margaret Thatcher as PM. When she was ousted in 1990, I thought how unusual it would be to have a male PM. With Thatcher and the Queen in charge, I think I assumed that women ruled the world.

I vaguely remember Spitting Image.

My parents' car broke down on a regular basis.

Icandothis123 · 06/02/2021 07:59

Born in 1978.
Good memories:
Woolworths on a Saturday, clockhouse at C&A, markets, summer holidays seemed long and were spent playing, having a fake Rainbow Brite doll at Christmas (and still loving it) Box of Delights at Christmas, Top of the Pops, Eastenders, Brookside, spending pocket money in local toy-shop, Channel 4 schools programmes when I was off school sick, only having set children's slots for tv, the 'Don't play near pylons' advert, only having 4 channels, the advent calander on ceefax, half penny sweets, being able to drive to London to see the Christmas lights (a lot less traffic).

The dark side:
Falklands war, miners strike and job losses, AIDS, threat of nuclear war, threat from IRA, glue-sniffing posters in the doctors, heroin user posters in the doctors.

Almahart · 06/02/2021 07:59

I was a teenager on the 80s. The fear of nuclear war was very real, I remember once hearing an unusual siren, very deep and loud and my mum and I looking at each other on absolute terror. Lots of it was very dark.

Schools were shit. Bad behaviour by teachers was rife. Meanness to kids, 'relationships' between staff and sixth formers.

London was emptier and quicker to get around. It was changing very quickly. I remember my mum again coming home from work and reporting with amazement that she had seen someone pick up a bottle of champagne in a supermarket in Clapham and buy it casually on a weekday evening.

It was quite something when cafes began to have tables outside in the early 90s.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 06/02/2021 08:01

VeganCow

Has anyone mentioned Rita, Sue and Bob too? 😂

Anyone who wants to see what the 80’s was like should watch it.

higgledypiggledyhen · 06/02/2021 08:07

I used to use Oxford Circus underground frequently and until recently one of the chaps who works there still had his 80s Mohican.
I'd think of my childhood every time I saw him

midgedude · 06/02/2021 08:14

Takes slight umbridge at the miners strike .,, not the decimation of jobs .... being considered a downside

Tumbleweed101 · 06/02/2021 08:15

Children’s tv - we had a couple hours after school of kids programmes and weekend mornings. There were only a couple of channels with them so you could chat about those shows with your friends. These days it is on loop!

No computer except an Atari console.

The big storm of 1987 happened the year I started secondary school and all the big trees in my local park fell down and several walls in the neighbourhood.

I remember us changing from using sheets and blankets to duvets. It was really exciting lol. We didn’t have a landline phone for ages, not sure if they cost a lot then as we weren’t that well off.

Weekends were spent going shopping with my nan and mum, walking into town and back. Got sweets or lolly at the same newsagent each week if we’d ‘been good’ walking around town. I used to like pulling my nans shopping trolley home. Once we got home my nan would empty out her purse of coppers and pennies and we could get penny sweets from the shop near her house. Remember they also had half penny sweets then too. On Sunday my dad would take us to the pub with him in the summer and my brother and I would have coke in bottles and play outside with the other children. Later I discovered this was so my mum could have a couple hours to herself doing the housework and do the Sunday roast. Then in evening we’d have bath etc ready for school.

I lived in London and sometimes you would hear the air raid sirens being tested and it used to scare me as it was the era where nuclear war was still talked about frequently.

Flibbitygibbit · 06/02/2021 08:51

Miss Selfridge was trendy ... who had this????

To ask you to tell me about the '80s?
Mummyoflittledragon · 06/02/2021 08:57

@Blueskysunsout
Thanks for posting that video. Gosh I’d forgotten about all the raves. I talked with friends about going to one. I was the only one with a car. I decided it was too risky. By the time we were really aware of them, the police were closing in on them and didn’t want to be arrested. We were just that little bit too young and from a provincial town. Then we went off to university and the party started....

Icandothis123 · 06/02/2021 09:14

@midgedude apologies. When I said miners strike and job losses, I did mean the job loss side. They absolutely should have stood up for their livelihood.

LApprentiSorcier · 06/02/2021 09:37

@grassisjeweled

Frankie Goes to Hollywood's 'Relax' and I am right back there.

Oh yes. And radio 1 wouldnt play it. Even when it got to number 1shock

^

Why wouldn't Radio 1 play it?

Because the lyrics were considered too explicit - relax, don't do it, when you want to come.
SlopesOff · 06/02/2021 09:38

@Flibbitygibbit

Miss Selfridge was trendy ... who had this????
I had that Grin. Miss S. was great, Topshop too.

The 80's were the best time of my life, in spite of the things that happened, mentioned in other posts. Every time of life has worries about wars, recessions, etc. and somehow I just got on and enjoyed my life.

I worked hard, built a business, travelled. Permed hair, leather biker jackets, jeans hitched up with a belt and a gathered up crotch, not quite Mom jeans but similar, big baggy surfer t shirts over leggings, Benneton, summers that weren't humid and unbearable. I bought a house early 80's, then another to renovate as I loved it, sold the first one and moved in and that was when my life was complete.

I remember hiring a car on holidays and driving through the desert with music playing, Whitney, Pet Shop Boys, assorted hits and artists, sunbathing, reading endlessly by the pool, snorkelling, shopping, hot evenings.

London buses still had open platforms so you could run and jump on as it pulled away. Gay hairdressers being openly honest about being gay instead of having to tone it down. Aids.

Restaurants that served good food, normal healthy stuff, vegetarian, Cranks, and the posh places where you came out hungrier than when you went in and ££££££'s worse off like the Belvedere in Holland Park. Pink table cloths.

RosesAndHellebores · 06/02/2021 09:41

I saw the 80s as a time of rebirth after the 3 day week in the 70s and a nation halted by the power of the unions. I remember uncollected rubbish in the 70s and rats in London Streets.

I also remember British Gas, Telecom and London Electricity. There were no alternative providers and service standards were dreadful.

I also remember all the one item shops springing up:
Sock Shop
Tie Rack
Benetton (the Angel and Devil advert Shock)

There were no coffee shops and hardly anywhere to go for tea except the back of a bakers or Julianas in Notting Hill. M&S didn't yet have cafes.

Almahart · 06/02/2021 09:42

@Tumbleweed101

Children’s tv - we had a couple hours after school of kids programmes and weekend mornings. There were only a couple of channels with them so you could chat about those shows with your friends. These days it is on loop!

No computer except an Atari console.

The big storm of 1987 happened the year I started secondary school and all the big trees in my local park fell down and several walls in the neighbourhood.

I remember us changing from using sheets and blankets to duvets. It was really exciting lol. We didn’t have a landline phone for ages, not sure if they cost a lot then as we weren’t that well off.

Weekends were spent going shopping with my nan and mum, walking into town and back. Got sweets or lolly at the same newsagent each week if we’d ‘been good’ walking around town. I used to like pulling my nans shopping trolley home. Once we got home my nan would empty out her purse of coppers and pennies and we could get penny sweets from the shop near her house. Remember they also had half penny sweets then too. On Sunday my dad would take us to the pub with him in the summer and my brother and I would have coke in bottles and play outside with the other children. Later I discovered this was so my mum could have a couple hours to herself doing the housework and do the Sunday roast. Then in evening we’d have bath etc ready for school.

I lived in London and sometimes you would hear the air raid sirens being tested and it used to scare me as it was the era where nuclear war was still talked about frequently.

That must have been what I heard. Thanks for clearing that up for me.
listerclocks · 06/02/2021 09:45

Children were seen and not heard, teenagers were expected to either go to university (if you were one to be proud of) or leave school and get a job without doing A levels, there was no inbetween. People married younger, had children younger.

Being gay, black or female was to be seen as being a lesser being by many and acceptable to be discriminated against. Mixed race marriages were frowned upon, poor mental health was a weakness.

Food was mainly meat and two vegetables and fresh pasta was unheard of unless you found a specialist delicattessen and paid through the nose for it.

Everybody had to keep up with the Joneses and had to make sure they kept up appearances. Being anything different from the norm was to bring shame on your family and garnered either sympathy or ostracisement for your family depending on how popular or unpopular they were.

midgedude · 06/02/2021 09:49

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