To be so upset?

[sunnyblueskies]

Hi guys,

I’m 35 and had my first ever cold sore about 4/5 weeks ago. I was super run down and struggling mentally so although i’d never really had one before, I could’ve carried the virus for years.

Yesterday I picked up my 15 month old from the childminder and he was sporting what looked like the start of a cold sore. We’ve woken up this morning to another one. I’m 99% sure they’re two cold sores.

I’m beside myself. I feel so guilty. Sick and my anxiety is through the roof. My baby now has this for life most probably because of me. I’m so gutted.

AIBU to feel so bad?

And where did you get it from ?
How about blaming the person who gave it to you rather than yourself.

Or blaming the virus. It happens.

Or maybe you caught it from your baby

Have you been kissing your child’s face?

When I had my cold sore, I didn’t go anywhere near his face. I was very very careful.

Dinosaur I have no idea where I got it from. For all I know I could’ve carried it since I was a child.

Cold sore viruses are endemic in the human population. That means nearly everyone will contract it at one point. It's harmless in 99% of people. Honestly, YABU. It's an endemic virus.

Don't blame yourself, or anyone else for that matter. As someone else said, blame the virus.

My husband has them. We've been together 30 years. I've never had one. Sometimes it's just down to luck whether you get it or not.

Oh, look don't worry too much about it, you didn't do it on purpose! Cold sores are most contagious before they're visible. As you've never had one you almost certainly didn't realise one was coming while it was still at that stage.

DH and I both get them and can tell very early one when one is due. I've had them since childhood but no one else in my family has them so I don't know where I picked them up from.

I have one right now. They are a pain in the arse alright.

I've had them since I was a child, mostly when I'm run down or stressed. I believe taking Lysine helps to keep them at bay but it's not something I've tried

I get them too. My DM says I gave them to her as well when I started getting them as I child... When I feel one comint I use zovirax (or a generic version) and 99% of the time it stops it. I have little tubes everywhere, beside the bed, handbag, car etc I was always really paranoid about passing them on to the kids and would feel bad if I did so understand how you feel OP, but try not to, you sound like you did everything you could not to pass them on!

I used to get them on my lip, then on the edge of my nose, now I get them inside my nose. I've been with my OH for 25 years, but neither he nor my son get them. It's just one of those things.

You’re being OTT. It’s a cold sore fgs a large percentage of the population have them recurring.

Aw, I understand why you're upset but it's really not your fault. You had no way of preventing it.

Most people carry HSV1 (cold sore virus), I'm sure your kid would have picked it up sooner or later, it's very common and quite contagious. Don't feel bad.

It's really not a massive deal, don't worry.

YABU OP.

It’s a bit upsetting but it’s a zero issue. I had a hideous first outbreak at age 8.

I think I’ve had two since and I’m 43.

My DH gets the odd one.

They’re extremely common. You and your baby will be fine.

Have you been kissing your child’s face?

Don't most people?

Op, I'd only worry if the baby was a lot younger. Don't beat yourself up