Would you say my ex-boyfriend/father to my son is being homophobic?
This is the text he sent me this morning, to begin with:
"Son just told me he's going to holiday destination with you and your girlfriend. Thought we had discussed you would be telling him she's your friend so not to confuse him. Guess you just ignored me as his dad yet again."
Firstly we didn't have a discussion beforehand. He pretty much told me when I told him I was with a woman that I should not encourage being gay in front of our son and that he wants our son to lead a normal life without that influence.
Secondly a bit of background on him. He was emotionally and mentally abusive to me while we were together. This was 4 years ago and I used up in a woman refuge. He is good at manipulation, comes to him like breathing really.
Lastly I casually brought into the conversation about my girlfriend with DS and asked if he minded and he said no and carried on playing. So I don't believe DS has said this to ex but this is exes views on the situation.
He believes I shouldn't have told our DS4 I have a girlfriend because it will confuse him! AIBU to have been so angry at this and to think he is being homophobic!?