Our covid bubble & family funeral

[Grannypants55]

We have been in a bubble with my dd & dgs for childcare purposes, but not with my dsil. We've not seen any of them for about 3 weeks because they have not needed us for childcare.
Also, all of us in our house tested positive for covid in the middle of January, but our isolation & contagious periods are now over. I ended up in hospital & have been out for a week. I still have a bit of a cough & am tired.
Tomorrow is my df funeral. Of course there is no wake afterwards.
Am I right in thinking that even though we were in a bubble & our isolation/contagious period is now over it still would not be appropriate for any of them to come around for food at night, never mind all 3 of them? (dd, dsil & dgs)
It sounds a no brainer question to me & it doesn't feel right for them to come round, but if we're not contagious as its been nearly 3 weeks since we were tested positive, & they're negative, is there still a risk? But it's the funeral of a much loved member of the family & some comfort & support to each other is very much needed.

Technically I don't think it would be allowed (apart from if one of the households only has one adult in and could form a support bubble with another household - but that wouldn't cover all 3 households).
However, as you say, it's a low risk situation, and support is needed at a difficult time. If you can do it discreetly without upsetting the neighbours, as a one off, I would just go ahead and meet up. Obviously only do it if you are all happy with the small chance of spreading covid - I wouldn't do it if any very elderly people involved.

Thank you @SnackSizeRaisin. It's just 2 households, ours & dd household, & they have an elderly person living in their house too, which makes me feel uneasy

I think that you can have a wake, but not in your home, you can hire somewhere for up to six people www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-guidance-for-managing-a-funeral-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic/covid-19-guidance-for-managing-a-funeral-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic

Should say not in your home for people not in your support bubble.

A childcare bubble is only for childcare, the adults can’t socialise.

There is guidance for funerals as above.

I appreciate it’s difficult, but you can only have a childcare bubble fo4 childcare, not for meeting up after a funeral. Also you mentioned dd and dgs which I assume is one family, and a dsl who must be another? So three households as the childcare bubble can’t count in this situation

It’s very clear you cannot meet in your own homes, regardless and as harsh as it sounds I think it should be adhered to. Why not hold a further service or wake later in the year, when hopefully more people could attend

I’m sorry for your loss

But childcare bubbles are only for childcare, not so adults can spend time together. So you shouldn’t see dd or dsil indoors at all, only dgs for childcare.

Sorry for your loss

Yes, it’s crap but the virus doesn’t know it’s a funeral/wake. There have been tragic cases of many family members being impacted after weddings and funerals so I personally wouldn’t risk it

As others have stated, you can’t be in a childcare bubble with your DD, only with children under the age of 14 (so only your DGS)

Legally as long as it is no more than six people, under government guidelines for wakes, they can see each other inside, but not at home and not in a bar/restaurant, but they can in a village hall/ conference venue etc. Obviously the virus doesn't know where they are so there is a risk of contagion but at three weeks after testing positive as long as there are no symptoms beyond a cough it is less likely that it will be passed on. There is obviously a small risk and the view of the elderly person, who hopefully now has had a dose of the vaccine. Whatever you decide I hope the day goes as well as can be expected and you continue to recover

I am sorry for your loss
Would it be possible to plan something for a later date, when you will be able to all be together?

Thank you all for your advice, we have decided to do what is right & not get together after the funeral today