I'm being blamed for breaking up a relationship and threatened, is this my doing?

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Yesterday evening I was scrolling through Facebook and came across a post from a man I vaguely know through mutual friends. He had shared an article from a newspaper about Katie Price's disabled son Harvey - taking the piss out of him and saying some awful things in the comments with his friend.

I don't make a habit of involving myself in drama but it upset me, probably more than it should but I have a disabled child myself and abhor things like that.

I reported the post then sent him a private message saying he should be ashamed of himself and must be stupid to be writing such things online where he advertises his business. I removed him as a friend and forgot all about it.

Tonight I received a reply from him, well a barrage of abuse, saying I've caused him alot of bother, caused his girlfriend to leave him and he's going to find out where I live.

I asked him what he was talking about as I certainly haven't spoken to his girlfriend or anybody else for that matter, to which he replied that she has been on his Facebook and seen the message from me about his Facebook post and "shit herself" (his words) because she thinks he "hasn't changed" and "has trouble" with people.

Now obviously I was clearly being unreasonable to say anything to him in the first place as he's clearly unhinged, but do you think it's my fault his girlfriend has left him?

I'm contemplating reporting him to the police at this stage as although i no longer live in my home town where he is, he said he's going to track me down.

Report hun for what, he hasn’t made any threats apart from finding out where you live. Nothing the Police can or will do. Block him and forget about it.

Yes, I think I'd report that sort of thing. He sounds unhinged.

Yanbu op. Report him. He obviously has issues.

well it’s definitely not your fault his girlfriend left him. Delete, block and forget about it.

Report him 100%

Just message him back and say you’ve logged his “threat” to find you with the police and you don’t wish to have any further contact then block him.

@Yesmate

Report hun for what, he hasn’t made any threats apart from finding out where you live. Nothing the Police can or will do. Block him and forget about it.

He has made threats.

He's claiming to be offering people £2000 to find my address which he'll then turn up to and implying he's going to hurt me.

There was alot more to his messages than what I included in my OP.

Presumably someone else quietly did something with his stupid behaviour and because you messaged him, he's assuming you also reported him or shared the fact he did this somewhere, or messaged his girlfriend about it.
Lesson learned: People who are nasty to disabled children in public aren't people to PM. Ever.
Screenshot the messages then block him ASAP so he can't see your info. I'd also lock down other accounts you have on social media and take down any photos of your kids to be on the safe side.

If he "hasn't changed", he's done this before. Report to the police and let his girlfriend know, too. (If you can)

He's claiming to be offering people £2000 to find my address which he'll then turn up to and implying he's going to hurt me.

Screenshot the evidence of that, don't reply to him at all or open any further messages, ring the police.

Well in that case of course you should report him, why ask on here? If you’d have said that in the beginning then I would have said report immediately 🙄

In future best just to report such posts to Facebook and then unfriend the offending poster. Anyone arseholish enough to post offensive comments about disabled kids isn’t going to have a sudden epiphany about their behaviour and change just because you message them. Likelihood it will just turn nasty as you situation proves.

Good on you for having a go at him! Totally justified, in my opinion, as it was disgusting behaviour.
Absolutely NOT your fault that his girlfriend left. Sounds like she already knew he was a prick, and this incident just confirmed that for her.
Definitely report to the police, as he has threatened you.

Police. Now. Do not wait.

I've already blocked him after screenshotting all of the messages.

Sorry I didn't elaborate more in my OP.

I was unsure whether I wanted to report him just incase it made things worse. He may be blowing hot air for all I know but then get really pissed off if he got a visit from the police.

I wondered if somebody had messaged his girlfriend but he was adamant that the reason she left him is because she saw my inbox specifically.

Report. Why should he get to threaten women online the nasty troll.

I'm going to report him, thank you. That was my gut instinct I was just hesitating out of worry it may make things worse.

The last thing I want is for somebody who is clearly unhinged to be turning up at my home where my kids are.

There was no reasoning with him and he's convinced himself it's all my doing and he's done nothing wrong.

A Facebook seller I dealt with once turned out to be utterly unhinged and threatened to come to my house. I reported him to FB (they could see all the messages) and I went to the police as well.

At the time DH was often working away and I had young children.

So YANBU - I would.

Screenshot the threats, report, block and have nothing more to do with it.

He's clearly a) very nasty and b) has relationship problems which predate any interaction you had with him so you definitely aren't to blame and he's just flailing around trying to find excuses as to why his OH has woken up and smelled the coffee.

As an aside, though, how did you think it was going to go DMing someone like this? You were never going to change his mind and he was obviously a nasty bully.

Definitely report. He's a nasty threatening bullying and disabalist cunt. Reading between the lines it seems he's spent most of lives bullying vulnerable people and anyone brave enough to challenge him. Its about time he was stopped. Surely mocking someone who has a,disability is a hate crime. . I bet he's not the type to fight with or target an able bodied bloke though. Hed probably go down like a sack of potatoes.
Oh and no his relationship break up is not your doing. His GF has thankfully seen what a twat he is.

I'm not sure what I wanted to get from the situation by messaging him to be honest, I did it in the spur of the moment as I was angered by the things he was saying.

At the time I just wanted him to know that at least somebody thought he was an arsehole.

My DS is autistic and I'm fiercely protective of him, seeing people say such vile things about vulnerable people with disabilities upsets me personally as it's the sort of ignorant crap DS and thousands like him will have to endure his whole life.

It may have been a somewhat risky (and brave) move in terms of putting yourself in his sights, but tbh he sounds like a bullying prick and I'm glad he's got his comeuppance. I would love to be there if he knocked on your door (I'm a 6'2 black man who has lifted weights for 25 years and used to be an amateur boxer 😂).

But I guarantee it's just impotent posturing.

Of course it’s not your fault!

Do report him, so the incident is lodged, screen shot any messages to share with police and keep copies. Then block him and forget about it.

Saying hes going to find out where you live is a statement of threat. Always report to police. Then you may save someone else in the future, from harm