So my friend went crazy with me last night, I never intended to upset her at all and now I feel so bad.
Sorry for length of post but have to give a little background.
So we have been friends for a while, we work in a bridal shop, both our daughters had weddings planned last year but both cancelled due to restrictions.
We basically haven't worked for almost a year, yes it's been hard, yes we have had cabin fever at points, however we still have almost the same income through furlough as no travel expenses and everyone is in the same position.
My friend is never off social media, if she is not posting? she is commenting, if she is not commenting? She is snooping.
She constantly craves validation from people she has met once who she then hunts down and friend requests just so she can boost her friends numbers, then becomes upset when these strangers don't comment/like etc.
She has told me off in a sing song voice for not commenting/liking her posts several times and calls me pathetic when I explain I have been crafting, painting, baking rather than on SM.
I completely understand this is her fix, SM is how she occupies her time, but it's only a 15 min distraction for me.
At the beginning of the pandemic, when we were all wearing masks for obvious reasons, my friend posted a huge performance, complete with picture about why she wears a mask, a very self serving post also demanding everyone stay at home and not mix to bring the virus under control, which we were ALL doing anyway.
2 weeks later, she created a post asking 'all her friends' to sign a petition calling for numbers at weddings to be increased?
Only 3 of us liked the post, none of us have signed, and I was just going to ignore it completely, but she phoned me up and gave me a telling off for not supporting the industry I work in or my own daughters wedding.
I told her I didn't think an increase was a good idea but took on board her point, liked her post to save the agro but no way I was signing that petition, as I said, we are doing ok on furlough and my daughter's concern is more about everyone's safety than having a huge crowd (we lost my dad last year).
Cut to last night, she reposted the petition, an acquaintance in our community called her out for what he deemed 'that ridiculous post' he wasn't completely disrespectful towards her, but called her out on her hypocrisy.
He pointed out that as her own mother is in a nursing home in a frail condition, her father in law has health conditions and we are in the midst of a pandemic, upping wedding numbers is a disturbing suggestion from anyone, especially someone who felt the need to previously lecture others about wearing a mask when they already were.
She phoned up so angry with me, for not backing her up as many people had liked his comment before she saw and deleted it (I didn't know)
She couldn't see any wrong in what she is encouraging, so asked me what I thought and was she a hypocrite? So after many years of biting my tongue at her constant hypocrisy I let it all out, there was stunned silence and she hung up.
I have tried to phone her loads from the minute she hung up till right now.
I feel terrible, I feel so in the wrong, rather than calm her down I made things worse.
My daughter says it has been a long time coming, but she really doesn't like my friend (many previous incidents).
I'm not one for discussing friends problems with other friends, so here I am wondering AIBU? Because I can't take back what has already been said, but I do love her and don't want to upset her again, how do I deal with this?
I also like my job, and she could make things difficult when we go back to work, as she has done with others.
Again apologies for the extended post and very grateful for any advice.