to just ask for a virtual hug

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I'm feeling so low atm. I know that everyone is. I know that we are all finding things hard. I was honestly ok until last week, but now a family situation is getting out of hand and I just can't be my normal positive self. I'm usually the happy one, the one who can cheer up friends when they are down, the one who listens. But everyone feels down atm and I feel I can't show how I feel. so please, AIBU to ask for some virtual hugs and love?

hope things get better for you soon. You're not alone.

Yep you can have a huge hug from me! I know how you feel! Things are slightly better this lockdown for me but the first one ugh ..I was doing ok then I stumbled about 3 weeks in and felt so low and so stressed and just not me,Its a scary place to be I found so I do sympathise. I sound like you in the way I am known for picking people up and carrying them but sometimes when I needed it there was no one there for me,It was almost like I wasnt allowed to feel rubbish, So I suggest you do something just for you to make you feel better ...this could be anything simple like a long hot bath or shower or listen to some fave music or read a book or paint a wall anything you like!! Eat a full pack of biscuits if you want anything just something for you that doesnt involve anyone else,,,just an hour or so to yourself to re balance and switch off. It works! I hope you feel better soon lovely lady.I am sure you will.Bet you are doing a fantastic job but you just dont feel like it today, Here if i can help any xxx

Yanbu op. Hug to you. We’re all finding this tough I know, so remember you’re not alone. Once spring gets into gear at least that will bring some happiness. I’m just trying to think day to day and not think too much about the bigger picture. Go easy on yourself and offload on here- it’s helping keep me sane

Thank you so much for such lovely messages. I've just eaten 95g of fruit & nut in about 15 minutes flat so that helped a little. Actually your messages made me cry. It is so touching that strangers on the internet care. Hugs to all of you xx

Hugs incoming!

I don’t do hugs but can I interest you in an awkward shoulder tap and a cup of tea?

@LadyCatStark

I don’t do hugs but can I interest you in an awkward shoulder tap and a cup of tea?

As long as you don't do what a friend of mine used to do - he hated hugs, so no matter your height you would always get a head rub like a dog

How are you feeling now OP?

Of course YANBU, have a big virtual.hug (((((big hug))))))

Big hugs.

Its shit, really shit at the moment. I know im struggling a lot, especially this last week.

Look after yourself, your feelings are validated and its ok to feel low. Take some time for you, do your nails, have a bath, buy a good book or something different to do, just take time out for yourself. Just because you're usually bubbly, doesn't mean you can't feel low at times too.

Sending loads of hugs, but you know everyone who loves you would be upset if they knew you needed some love but felt you couldn't bother them, especially as it seems you are always there for them.
It's ok to not be ok, and the more we all talk about our worries it lets those who feel they are alone know they are not.
Hope all the virtual hugs help x

I'm also not a hugger, but can I interest you in a funny meme?

I also have some really pathetic jokes -

Whats the difference between Dubai and Abu Dhabi?

The people of Dubai don't like the flintstones, whereas the people of Abu Dhabi Dooooooooo

Hope you're feeling better soon op. Its horrible when you're feeling down anyway everything seems 50 times worse than it really is

Thank you all for the virtual hugs, and awkward hugs, and all the love. I've woken up feeling just awful, but I'm trying really hard to be positive and see my way through this. I have a particularly bad situation atm with my sd, and I'm trying so hard not to judge.. the hugs and flowers and chocolates and messages are all wonderful. thank you all

((((HUGS))))

Please have as many as you'd like. I live alone, so have plenty!!

How old is your SD? Do you want to talk about it or not?

Thank you @BestOption. She's 22. I'd really like to talk about it, but I'm worried it would be outing...

It always feels quite 'outing' doesn't it. Even though most things really aren't. But I understand.

We're all here though if you change your mind!

22 it's honestly harder than when they're 22 months! I hope it all works out ok.

In the meantime, plenty of 💐 , ☕️ 🍫 & hugs'

thank you so much @BestOption. I definitely agree 22 years is so much harder than 22 months. My own are now grown up, and someone once said to me bigger kids = bigger problems. Bring back my babies!

Massive hugs from me OP

I come bearing as well as a hug, I bought myself a bunch yesterday and they've cheered me up so I hope they do you as well.
Will what's upsetting you still matter in 10 years time? Someone said that to me once and it helps me regain my perspective on bad days

Here you go. Hope things improve for you.

Hugs from me too, hope things feel better soon.

I do great virtual hugs.

Here you go

And some because you deserve them.

Feeling just awful tonight. It’s midnight and I can’t sleep for crying. I’m trying to tire myself out in the hope I just fall asleep.