AIBU to keep in contact?

[Pollypocket89]

Wasn't really sure what to call this thread

For those of you who have close friendships, do you speak to some people every day? And would you expect someone you speak to every day to not talk one day and would that make you worry?

Would the above sound like a friendship or more of a couple/relationship dynamic?

I think it depends on personality. I don't have any friends (including DH) who I feel the need for this sort of set up. The group chat which we all drop into over the week but not necessarily daily seems to suit me better

I have some friends I message with every day but it wouldn't make me worry if they didn't message me for a few days. Are you worried there's a problem with the friendship if they don't message, or are you worried something's happened to them?

Its referring to my sister and a male friend of hers. She insists they're just friends but they speak every day and he went awol for a day and she worried which suggests more than friendship to me, especially as he apologised to her but I don't know if that's my own pov coming through

Thanks for the perspective!

It seems a bit odd to worry about not hearing from a friend for a day. Sounds like there's more to it. But maybe your sister isn't ready to tell you how she feels when she perhaps hasn't even told him (or admitted it to herself)?

I have been involved in a number of friendship groups where people did check up on some members every day. The people checked were those who lived on their own. We'd all experienced instances of fit young people being injured or taken ill at home and lying for a day or more before being discovered. It was quite up -front that we were calling to check you were not lying at the bottom of the stairs with a broken neck.

That's what I think, not admitting it to herself yet or maybe him not admitting feelings either as I wouldn't be apologising to a friend