To not want my dd to meet her friend?

[Kaylasmum49]

My 17 year old dd asked me tonight if I would be ok with her meeting her friend outside tomorrow. She said it's ok if I don't want her to. I told her I would prefer her not to atm. Her friend also meets up with her boyfriend so it's makes me think that it probably isn't safe.

I feel bad for her and think I should just tell her it's ok.

AIBU?

Maybe she’s looking for an excuse not to?

What are the rules where you are?

Are you shielding?

It’s one person outside, which is within the rules last time I checked. Socially distant, ask her to wear a mask if you’re worried, but I’m sorry to say I think it’s cruel not to let her, and YABU.

Meeting one other person outdoors is within the rules I thought?
I would be ok with that as long as it was outside and just the one friend.

I'd be ok with that it is within rules.

The rules are one person outside. The new variant is my main concern. I'm not sure that they would keep 2 mtrs apart and I'm pretty sure she wouldn't want to wear a mask.

I am not CV but I am 54 and overweight, I have severe health anxiety and have just been diagnosed with depression and am really struggling with my mental atm.

I will tell her it's ok to meet up, it's not fair on her to not let her go.

Sorry to hear you’re struggling OP. For the sake of your daughter’s mental health though I think the right thing to do is let her see a friend outside so I’m glad you said you’d let her go. I would ask her to be mindful of your concerns and socially distance though. But it really is low risk to walk outside with one other person, keeping your distance.

YABU since it’s perfectly within the rules but you’re being ridiculous thinking you have any say over how a SEVENTEEN year old spends her time

Outside has the lowest risk of all. You don’t need to be so worried and your daughter needs to feel ok about meeting up with a friend outside. Just tell her no snogging! 🤣 sounds like you have a lovely daughter who’s looking out for you. Ignore grumpy pants above , and maybe get some fresh air yourself? It’s much harder to be anxious when you’re walking. 💐

It's not fair to her to let your issues affect her life.

does the virus know the rules, and will it obey them.
i doubt it.
you have a fine daughter , OP.
i would be wanting to keep her as safe as possible, and myself.
please read this article. hope you both keep well OP. all the best.
www.theguardian.com/world/2021/jan/29/everyday-covid-mistakes-we-are-all-still-making

It would be immensely unkind to not allow your daughter to meet. It's within the rules (and she doesn't need a mask outside). Her mental health is so important.

She sounds like a sensible girl. I’d let her go. I second the idea of getting out in the fresh air for a bit yourself. It might help clear your head And possibly help with your anxiety.

Her mental health is important too.

It’s within the rules so you should let her go. As long as they are sensible there’s no problem.

I appreciate all the replies. I knew I was being unreasonable and I know that I can't let my concerns affect my dd.

My main concern about catching covid is the fear of dying and leaving my kids. I have 5 dcs and can't bear the thought of not being here for them. My 14 year old ds is autistic and has severe anxiety, he doesn't want his sister to meet with her friend and was getting quite agitated yesterday when we were discussing it. I am also a carer to my 34 year old ds who has severe mental health issues, self harms, overdoses and is CV. So I was trying to factor in these circumstances when replying to my dd.

My dd is an absolute joy and a beautiful young woman. Her mental health is hugely important to me.