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Family dont care

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Leoni2020 · 30/01/2021 20:12

Feeling bitter and angry aswell as hurt.
I have 2 children, a partner but an extremely small family as I choose not to see most of them as they're just bad news and toxic.
Long story short, my dad never bothers with me or his (only 2 grandchildren.
I only see him when he argues with his latest woman.
He got me nothing for Christmas ( not that I want anything because I'm more of a giver than receiver) but got his partner a gift worth a LOT of money....
I love him and respect him which is why I think this is hurting so much.
Iv never felt quite good enough for him even though he has done a few shitty things in life which in unforgivable.
He has lots of money yet watches me struggle. I wouldnt take anything of off him I'll be honest it isnt about that, it's about me being hes child and he doesnt seem to care of love me.
I have 2 children and could never treat them like this, make them feel worthless.
He never asks about the children and never asked to see them.
All hes interested in is being an ostentatious prick trying to impress the women.
Well I'm done, he will never see me again so the next time his partner kicks him out, he wont be welcome here to use me.
He has no friends or other family just his money and partner.
So angry, can someone please tell me I'll stop going over and over this in my head soon, its driving me mad, I'm actually preying the nasty bastard suffers.
He may have money but he will be an old lonely man with money but nobody.

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MotherHaryy · 30/01/2021 20:33

You sound like your describing me father! He only cares for me when he needs something, other than that he couldn't be arsed about his grandchild, unless it's too make me feel guilty as He has never met her, she's 7 months now and when I told him I was expecting after 5 years of NC with him - he said ...' well haven't you just f*cked up your life'

Honestly, I'm so so much happier without him in my life, and I know my DD will be so much better off too! Sometimes people are toxic and it may hurt not having them for a while but you do get used to it - hope it all works out for you @Leoni2020 💐

Leoni2020 · 30/01/2021 20:42

Thankyou.
Yes my dad said I was mad when pregnant with my now 5 yr old, then said when pregnant with now 2 yr old, "it's not the same having 2 kids you know" ( like he would ever know). So hes never even met hes granddaughter, theres no excuse for that.
Being parents ourselves I cant understand the lack of complete love and protection they just do not have.

Theres a lot more happened but pointless going over it on here I'm just so sad.
He promised my boys a trip to legoland a year ago, hasnt happened. My son asked me today why grandad never took him,, I just said dont worry sweetheart I'll take you when it opens after lockdown, which I will, cant afford it but I wont have empty promises given.
All he did was promise me as a child then didnt even turn up.
I hate him and really hope it goes wrong with the Mrs and he finds himself homeless with nobody.
Karma.

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