My partner hates crumbs, glitter, dust, fluff, etc. He's very clean and hoovers a lot.sounds perfect but We have toddlers and they are messy eaters but I clean and hoover and mop after they have eaten. when my partner comes back or down in the morning he will redo all these things. the children have to stay in another room whilst he hoovers everywhere, and dinner time is always stressful he doesn't like me letting them feed themselves because they make a mess and after they have eaten he dusts them off and hoovers under them then let's them go in another room. My issue is that he won't speak to us if there's a mess and will swear and shout and throw things about (not at us, just in general) and generally make a bad atmosphere... I want him to stop and try and be more laid back in case they associate eating with being dirty, or something bad but he won't listen. I'm not sure if I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill but I feel stressed when they have to eat because I know he'll be in a mood.