Neither of us are BU but not sure how to resolve this.

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Both DH and I are only children. And both his mum and my dad are on their own and in their 70s. His mum is a bit older than my dad, but very healthy. My dad is a bit younger than DH’s mum but he has been in remission from cancer for about 7 years.

We recently moved house (by about 100 miles) and are now more or less equidistant between my dad and his mum. So now that we’re closer, DH wants to bubble with his mum and I want to bubble with my dad.

His mum came to us for Christmas while my dad spent Christmas Day with a local friend.

In don’t know how to resolve it!

Bubble with neither and do socially distanced visits instead

I would bubble with one or the other.

What do they both say?

If your DH and you cant decide, agree beforehand to go by tossing a coin.

Well if you leave it a couple of weeks between visits you could alternate and see them each once a month. Or, as the pp suggested, just keep it socially distanced with one or both

Do either of them need to be bubbled with you? Or is it just that you would like to be bubbled? I think I'd look at 'extenuating circumstances' for both, ie, with my separated parents my mum has a large social group and plenty of friends to chat to online/over the phone/going on walks with, whereas my dad has no friends/suffers from social anxieties. I'd have to choose my dad over my mum. However my dad is clinically vulnerable, and I'm high risk as a locum pharmacist, so I choose to bubble with neither. Sorry, I don't think this helps you much, I think I'm just feeling guilty about not seeing my dad!

I don’t think it’s fair to choose between them so I don’t think you should ‘bubble’ with either right now. They’ll be vaccinated soon and this lockdown won’t be forever.