AIBU to expect everyone treat all my DC (inc SD) the same?
I’ve been with DH for 8 years (SD is 9 so have always been in her life)
Before we had our own children she was the only grandchild so understandably spoiled. We now have DS4 & DD who’s 2 and yet it feels like SD is still the one who’s given everything. And not just from DH family! My own dad will buy her bags of sweets to take home to her mums and little bits like this, yet said at Christmas “I’m Not getting DS & DD anymore toys they’ve got enough”
MIL (pre COVID) specifically requested to have SD For the night/weekend etc regularly. My daughter has stayed at her house once!! Once we even asked MIL to babysit, but said she couldn’t as working only to them volunteer to have SD the same day!
My DH aunty is SD god mum so always buys her a charm for her bracelet for birthdays and Christmas which is fine. I think it’s a lovely tradition. What really annoys me is that she’ll then get an extra present on top of that whereas my 2 DC are given a card and then a “family” gift card. I don’t particularly care about the value of presents but it’s heart breaking to explain to a 4 year old that his sister has got presents to open on Christmas Day that he doesn’t. I should also point out that it’s not like SD only gets treated like a queen when she’s with us, she’s an only child at her mums and the only grandchild there too so she wants for nothing.
Luckily SD loves her brother & sister and always offers to share anything and loves playing with her toys with them.
I’m not suggesting that if one gets a Barbie they should all get the exact same Barbie, but AITA for wanting people to largely treat them all the same!