To ghost?

[Imworthit]

I met a girl last year and we got on well at first. Hung out a couple of times before lockdown. she was really nice to me but drank to much and was rude to my boyfriend and to strangers. So when lockdown started I was happy to let the friendship fizzle. She called me last night out of the blue but I was going to bed so I said I’d call her today. Except I don’t know if I should. A phone call won’t hurt anyone, I don’t want to be cruel but I don’t exactly want her to think we’re friends either. I’ve made so much progress in the last two years avoiding toxic friendships. In fairness I haven’t really given her a chance...but I also don’t have to. Call and just be friendly? Ghost? Tell her why?

AIBU- to call back but not make any effort after

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If you dont want to call her, then don't.

Just let it fizzle. Not like you’re longtime or close friends. Despite what a lot of people will say, it does seem kinder sometimes to ghost than to tell someone you don’t like this, that and the other about them and their behaviour.

Thanks guys I spoke to my bf and he reminded me how rude she was to everyone but me, wait staff, strangers and him. Even my mum didn’t like her. I had forgotten exactly why I didn’t want to talk because she was weirdly sweet to only me. Anyway I’ve blocked her. Feel guilty but life’s to short for toxic people.

No, don't ghost her. Message her instead, let it fizzle. Or message her and explain why you're not interested in keeping in touch. Be polite but firm.