aibu to wonder why we have so many threadds asking people to remember the worst things that have ever happened to them?

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it's not just today, i have noticed it's quite a common thing on here...

the unkindest thing someone has said
worst thing a parent has done

unhappiest day of your life etc

but we hardly ever have

what was the kindest thing that has ever happpend
or what was your best day like

i wonder why there is such a need/want to wallow in sadness and gloom? Does it help people to rehash awful things like this?

there is so much sadness and awfulness in every day life at the moment....is it like the dementors taking over and making us only think of awful things?

Daily Fail journo article

I'm sure a couple of them are actually the poo troll, but their threads keep being over run by people telling them it might be Covid instead of sharing the tales of poo they'd hoped for.

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Yes. And when a poster states a thread about how contented/happy/lucky/proud they are, so often they get flamed for being inappropriate. Like you must not admit to having a good life during a pandemic or recession.

Best to just scroll past emotional vampirism.

I actually have seen a couple of threads recently about the nicest thing a stranger has ever done for you

Because it can be quite cathartic to talk about it anonymously. Because it can be reassuring to speak to others who have been through similar. Not everyone has a therapist or sympathetic real life ear. Just ignore and scroll on if you dont like it.

Yes, yabu. People can post what they like (within reason). You don't have to go on the thread you know.

And, like a PP has said, it can be cathartic.

I don't go on threads that I know will make me feel miserable, life is hard enough as it is. I do understand that it helps people to get horrible stuff that has happened or been said to them in the past, out in the open.

There was a poster here (may still be here for all I know) who used to post about her idyllic village lifestyle with friendly shepherds waving from the hills, and everybody knowing each other and even the teenagers were cheerful and studious. I know it was probably a fantasy but in a silly way, I liked reading her threads.

Many, many people seem to have limitless capacity to dwell on what others have done to them without acknowledging what they have done themselves.

There really do seem to be posters on here who think that they have never been unkind, or said something someone else could construe as hurtful but can remember every tiny detail of what others have done to them.

The lack of humility is astounding.

Misery loves company. Nothing makes some people feel better than hearing that others have it shot too... Sadly.
I don't go on these

I was just reading one of these...it made me really sad. Each to their own, but it's not what I need on a Friday evening!

@Eeeemac

Many, many people seem to have limitless capacity to dwell on what others have done to them without acknowledging what they have done themselves.

There really do seem to be posters on here who think that they have never been unkind, or said something someone else could construe as hurtful but can remember every tiny detail of what others have done to them.

The lack of humility is astounding.

Saying something unkind that someone's done to you isn't saying you haven't been unkind yourself, though. People are replying to the threads that are on a specific topic with their examples. It doesn't mean they lack humility.

Oh the irony!!

I kind of agree with @Eeeemac

I know it isn't necessarily a lack of humility and it is cathartic to get it out, but it's not often people openly admit to being a shit and rationally most of the people who've been treated badly will have at some point hurt others. I have regrets for some things I've done. We all do I guess. It's just hard to confront it.
I'm guessing that a lot of people know they've been awful but are too selfish, or lacking humility to own it or apologise.

Actually I think the number of threads that get started about nice experiences isn't so different, but they usually get less traction and fall off the first page quicker so it looks like there aren't as many. I guess on the whole people want to vent more about the bad things than reminisce about the good ones.

@Alonelonelyloner But the point is that such threads are asking a specific question, for e.g. "what's the worst thing anyone's ever said to you?" People are answering that specific question. If @eeeemac wants a thread with humility, she could start one asking "what's the worst thing you've ever said to someone?" for example.

In fact, as an anonymous forum, I think threads like those could also be quite cathartic. Kind of like a confessional.

YANBU. I avoid them all.