Y2 DD upset

[Threelilbears]

Ftm, DD in Y2 told me that a boy in her class told her he wanted to be her boyfriend. She is very upset and told him 'No'. She wants me to speak to her class teachers to let them know. She said she wanted to tell them but was too scared.

How do I broach the subject?

Do I just explain it like I did here?

Any advice on what I should be saying to her? I don't want to get it wrong. Would love some advice from experienced parents please!

Have you asked her why she's upset?

Is there more to the story that she's not telling you do you think?

What you say to the school- exactly what you said here. Very factual “this is upsetting DD please keep an eye

Why is she so upset? She said no, did he do or say anything after that? Unless he is harassing her I think she needs to learn some resilience.

At age 6/7 I would assume they were talking about being a boy who was a friend tbh. What was it that upset your dd?

I'd just encourage her to be friendly to everyone. Maybe roleplay saying something like "I like to have lots of friends."

If that’s the full story I wouldn’t be saying anything to the teacher but be working with your daughter and to improve her self esteem. I can imagine my Y2 boy reacting like this because he doesn’t want to upset people, doesn’t like attention and wants to be liked.

Did he accept the no? If he didn't accept the no, then its a discussion for the teacher and reassuring your daughter that her boundaries are important.
If he did accept the no, then perhaps you need to explore with your dd why she's so upset and scared by this happening.
Small children often ask each other out and want to be boyfriend/girlfriend. Its using the words, and maybe holding hands and playing together. Its not something to be upset about and to go to the teacher about. Your daughter has the right to say no, and no one should do that if they aren't comfortable but its worth exploring what she doesn't like about it and why upset. Then depending on that answer will depend on what you do next/

Sounds pretty normal to me (what the boy has said). What has upset her? Perhaps he's been a bit persistent? I would get a bit more info from dd first.

I'd just encourage her to be friendly to everyone

Could not disagree more with this statement. Girls are NEVER too young to set boundaries against unwanted attention.

You broach the subject by showing her that you are taking her upset and concerns seriously, and you ask the school to get her teacher to monitor the situation.

Thanks for your replies. I'm not sure why it's upset her so much. It's a boy she plays football with and when I asked what he said after she said 'no' she said nothing. She did have a little cry and said she couldn't wait for lock down to be over so that they could be back in their normal classes. I think I'll just ask the teachers to keep an eye out. She is a very sensitive girl.

Oh poor thing. I wonder if he was quite pushy about it or if she was embarrassed by it?

I would mention how she is feeling to the teacher so she can keep an eye out.

Hopefully your daughter opens up and you can offer advice based on what it was that upset her. Be sure to tell her she is absolutely right to say no and that she did right to tell you about something that upset her.