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to reach out to her?

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Fruityherbaltea · 28/01/2021 22:15

Hi everyone,

I left a certain company 5 years. I had a colleague there, who developed breast cancer shortly after I left.

I was friendly with this colleague and I liked her, but we were never friends.

After her diagnosis I felt really sorry and we exchanged messages on WhatsApp for a while. This lasted maybe for 6 months to a year and then the contact sort of stopped ( I can't remember now why it stopped).

Today I coincidentally ran into the wife of my fiancé's mate. She's also undergoing chemotherapy at the moment for breast cancer.

I don't know why, but after seeing her today, I have the strong urge in my heart to reach out to my ex colleague.

I changed my phone and number this year, so I went into my old phone this evening to retrieve her number.

I didn't even know if she still uses that old number, but when I added her number to my new phone and searched her in WhatsApp, it showed her as "online".

I don't know if it's weird to reach out to her, the last time we spoke must have been at least four years ago or longer.

I certainly don't want this to come across as a " checkup to see if she's still alive" or an unwelcome intrusion.

What should I do?

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ivegotthisyeah · 28/01/2021 22:21

I think that would be lovely - and old school friend messaged my tonight I was delighted to hear from her

Wishitsnows · 28/01/2021 22:25

Go for it

TheCanyon · 28/01/2021 22:30

I woukd. "Hey it's Betty from bobs blinds here, I've thought about you loads over the last few years, just found your number again. I hope you're well"

Fruityherbaltea · 28/01/2021 22:51

Thanks everyone for your advice :) I'll message her tomorrow.

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