Feeling Sad

[1brightstar]

I am feeling really sad at the moment as all I ever wanted was to meet a nice guy and have a little family. I am 39 be 40 in a couple of months. I have been caring for someone for a long time so did not have a chance to meet people a part from work and shops etc. Since Sept not doing this now, but it is all too late and it is all disappearing. I wanted to meet someone naturally maybe through volunteering and clubs etc, but now can't now because of Covid and all this takes time and can see it never happening and it is making me feel so sad, not sure how to get over never having my own children as always wanted it. I feel I have messed everything up. I can't do it on my own as have no family support. I also don't want to do online dating as very bad experiences from past. I just feel really lost and crying a lot at the moment, it is really hard. Sorry

Sending you hugs. You sound like a lovely person. Somebody would be lucky to meet you

Oh big hugs lovely - life is pretty stressful at the moment ..

When cv is over why don’t you try a singles holiday ? My best friend met her partner on a paddleboarding holiday a few years ago !

Thank-you Rowenasemolina, just hate the fact it is all too late now to meet someone and have kids

My colleague met her husband at 42 and had a baby at 44 (naturally). Not too late!

Thanks for your replies just all I can think of at the moment and just feel it's slipping away, as all takes time to meet someone and know they are the right one etc. I think as well as with everything not sure when volunteering and social clubs will be starting again and then that is more time gone, just feel really upset about it

I have two friends who were in your situation.

Both decided having children was very important to them, and both have gone it alone with sperm donors. One had family support, the other didnt, it has been hard but I dont think she regrets it.

The one who didnt met a guy when her daughter was 5. He had two older children (teens) from a former marriage. They got married 5 years later.

The other has remained single, she has a daughter she is devoted to and seems happy.

Why is it too late to meet someone? Admittedly you might have left it a bit late for kids but there's still hope.

I had my 1st at 37 and second at 39, two weeks before my 40th.