To say thank you or not?

[stuckinaloopie]

Hello

Leaving a job soon where the manager has been nothing but mean and a bully to me but most of the staff members are alright. The manager upset me so much that I don't say hi to them and avoid them.

AIBU to not buy a "thank you" card for the office? I genuinely am relieved to be leaving because I've been so paranoid about everyone there (I'm like the outsider and everyone knows one another).

I don't feel thankful at all. If it wouldn't be childish, I'd hand-pick people to give cards too rather than give a thank you card that the manager and a not-nice staff member might read and feel good about.

What do you guys thinks?

Thanks

@stuckinaloopie

LOL *@Bluntness100* it's definitely not a me-thing. It's fine if it's not popular but this is deeply ingrained in the organisation I work for. I'm from a country where we don't do that, so, yeah, definitely picked it up in my organisation in the UK.

Have all you previous jobs been in this organisation? I can see how it might be the done thing in one company, but to have previous jobs who also follow the same custom is most unusual.

@AaronPurr yes. It's within the same organisation. So we rotate within an organisation to get a feel of every department.

Yeah, you really need to break this strange habit of thanking shitty employers! I'm not sure why someone would make you think it's normal!
You do not need to be this grateful!

I second Nohomemadecandles

Break this custom, be the rebel
Maybe they'll stop this practice.

Never heard of this, must be just a thing your organisation does.
I’ve sent thank you cards when I was a young student on placements m but to the specific individual with whom I was assigned to work, but not to any other the departments I have ever worked with. And never to anywhere where I have been made to feel horrible.
Go with your gut. Don’t do it if it feels uncomfortable.
And all the best with your new job!💐

@Aprilx

In thirty years in the workforce, I have never heard of anyone giving colleagues a thank you card when leaving. A leaving card from colleagues to the one leaving, yes, but not the other way around.

Me neither and I’ve been working since 1980!

An e.mail saying 'It's been nice working with most of you'.

Or if you must get a card, then the same message. They will know who you mean.

OP it's fairly rude not to reply when somebody offers advice on your thread.

I've never bought a card to say thank you when I've left a job. Normally they buy one to you saying good luck or sorry you're leaving or whatever.

Nope, all never sent a thank you card when leaving a job!

@pumpkinsoups

OP it's fairly rude not to reply when somebody offers advice on your thread.

OP has replied, maybe she's busy now?

@pumpkinsoups

OP it's fairly rude not to reply when somebody offers advice on your thread.

The Op has replied 6 times.

Write inside the card "I've enjoyed working with most of you". Job done.

I've never heard of the person leaving sending a card though, it should be them getting you a little leaving gift/card.

And if you're doing an office-based job, surely you should be working at home at the moment anyway, so no need for a physical card exchange.

@pumpkinsoups

OP it's fairly rude not to reply when somebody offers advice on your thread.

What an odd comment. The Op has replied 6 times, and directly quoted some posters / comments, they've beenmuch more engaged and reponsive than many who start threads.

Don’t buy a card to thank nasty people for being nasty.

@stuckinaloopie
Totally agree with @LApprentiSorcier comments Post.
Spot on good advice.

But obviously if you prefer you could give thank you cards indivduals,to your colleagues who were good to you.

Best of luck with your next job,hope its everything you are looking for op. .
xxxx

ps I know what it is like to have a colleague who is a Arsehole,its bad enough just having one person like that to work with,let alone the bad luck of several of them like you had.

Its like being amongst a cesspit(a sewer of vipers(hissing snakes,not knowing wich ones is going to stab you in the back next.

What a bunch of Arseholes your soon to be ex colleagues are Op.!😕

What would be a great thread "what do you wish you'd said to mean colleagues on your last day"...

It’s a thing where I work & not just a card!

Whoever leaves brings in a card and chocs or cake for everyone to share. The card is usually a ‘been lovely working with you all.....thank you for all your support......Or thanks for all the fun times’ & the chocolates & card get left in the break room for everyone to have one.

@pumpkinsoups

OP it's fairly rude not to reply when somebody offers advice on your thread.

You're peeved enough that op hasn't replied directly to you to make this post? How funny!

@pumpkinsoups sorry I just finished work and was driving home. Couldn't reply everyone if I tried. Thanks for your comment though