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When is it time to end things?

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mainlyrelationshipprobs · 28/01/2021 14:09

I need some help and advice on my relationship (if that's what you want to call it) we have been together for a year and half and I love them so so much, but I'm exhausted. My mental health is deteriorating, I feel like I'm not the same person I used to be. We argue a lot, and they have lied to me so much in the past that I second guess everything they say to me now and it causes us to argue and it can get very volatile. We live together and have a pet and I can't leave due to the current climate; also kinda don't want to leave and want things to work as I love them so much, with all my heart like I've never loved before. My head is saying one thing and my heart another. The love is still there, it's just toxic. Don't get me wrong, it's not all bad. They do make me happy too and they do everything for me and I know they love me... Though these days, I feel like it's more pain than joy being in this relationship. So I'm guessing, when is it time to leave or am I giving up too easy?
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KirstenBlest · 28/01/2021 14:12

You don't love him. You love who you think he is, even though deep down you know that the real him is an argumentative and volatile liar.

Get out of the relationship now before things get really nasty.

AryaStarkWolf · 28/01/2021 14:23

Only you know that but I think just asking the question is you knowing it's probably the right time now?

InTheDrunkTank · 28/01/2021 14:42

We argue a lot, and they have lied to me so much in the past that I second guess everything they say to me now and it causes us to argue and it can get very volatile.

You need to make plans to end it.

praepondero · 28/01/2021 14:57

Why do you call your partner 'them'? Hmm

mainlyrelationshipprobs · 28/01/2021 15:05

There's no reason for it, just the way I type. She's female.

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KirstenBlest · 28/01/2021 15:07

Sorry, I assumed your partner was male.
If you are in a toxic relationship, end it.

mainlyrelationshipprobs · 28/01/2021 15:13

@KirstenBlest

Sorry, I assumed your partner was male. If you are in a toxic relationship, end it.
Hey, don't worry about it!!
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