To not want to holiday together

[hop27]

Married to
DH 7 years
DSS 13
DSS and DH & I have previously difficult relationship, however past 12 months all good. DSS comes when he wants and when His mum needs help. Our current relationship works. We are all civil, but certainly not keen on building a friendship.
His mum has suggest we go on a cruise this Christmas together, stating DSS would love it, that she would give us space to enjoy a holiday too. DH doesn't know how to let her and DSS down gently, but doesn't want to entertain it. I've offered to go to friends for Christmas, if he wants to go. He has no interest in that. It's DSS's mum's 'turn' for Christmas.
AIBU ....

1. To think at 14, he doesn't need this type of holiday to validate that his family love him.
2. That I down want to go on holiday with her after 13 years of slander and abuse.
3. That a cruise is the LAST holiday you'd attempt post COVID?

In the news recently, it said some cruises would only let vacinated people on board

I guess a negative Covid test would be required too

What about the 10 day stay in a hotel on entry back into home country ?

Sound like a great holiday ?

YANBU on all 3 counts.

It's her turn to have DSS. Can't she and DSS go by themselves or does she want your DH to pay half and for you to provide childminding services when she wants to do something else when on board?

Zombie?

A holiday with the ex? No way. A day out maybe.

What an odd suggestion, it would be an absolute no from me

@crosstalk

Zombie?

The thread? It was made today

@crosstalk

Zombie?

OP would probably rather holiday with a zombie than the ExW

No is a complete sentence. Covid uncertainty an excuse if you need or want one.

I know she just wants to create a nice experience for DSS. But I don't think it's really an option. Christmas just gone she took DSS away to the beach to stay with family after Christmas and we took DSS away early December to the tropics. Think the same again would be better.
(Not in the UK, before I get jumped on for flouting the rules in addition to the assumption I was the OW)

I wouldn't have thought teenage boys were particularly into cruises.
Everything sounds like a dreadful idea.

I wouldn't go on holiday with an ex and current partner. Unless you all get along amazingly well it's a recipe for disaster

I would just say you don't want to. Unless she really is mental she won't insist.

God no. Just give Covid as a reason.