To want to read a parenting book

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Not because I think I’m a shit parent. But I think I could be better, maybe understanding my kids brain a little more, be a little bit more understanding in certain situations maybe.

Are they a lot of shite? I’m not a positive quote kind of person, it’s too cheesy for me, I prefer more direct to the point kind of talk.

Would you recommend any?

www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1848123094?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

There's a whole series of these books for various ages that always get recommended.

The explosive child book is good if you have a child that fits

Anything written by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
Margot Sunderland ‘The Science of Parenting’

Calm parents happy kids by Dr laura markham.

I've just started reading 'The book you wish your parents had read (and your children will be glad you did)'. I also hate cheese and positive quotes and that crap.

It's great so far and it's made me take notice of how I'm communicating with my toddler. This evening I realised I was doing something the book had pointed out, so I changed how I handled the situation according to the advice and I was amazed that it worked.

www.bookdepository.com/Book-You-Wish-Your-Parents-Had-Read-Your-Children-Will-Be-Glad-That-You-Did-Philippa-Perry/9780241251027?ref=grid-view&qid=1611780898210&sr=1-2

I've tried them all. They dont really work.

Seconding the Philippa Perry book. It has definitely made me reflect on my own childhood and how I can communicate better with my DS.

I’d highly recommend “why love matters” www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Love-Matters-Affection-Shapes/dp/1583918175?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Thirding Phillipa Perry. Its not a manual, it's about understanding your own upbringing and feelings etc around situations.

My friend who is a social worker with very vulnerable kids highly rates her and her husband's work.

I really enjoyed The Danish Way Of Parenting, probably because it made sense to me and reinforced the track I was already on if I’m honest. I have most of the others mentioned but my small brain can’t focus on them.

Again Philippa Perry - not dictatorial - simple stuff that makes you think and look at how you and your OH were brought up and maybe have different parenting blue prints. What stood out for me was doing the direct opposite of what you considered your DPs did wrong was not always the right approach.

It’s an easy read and backed up by her 20 years as a practicing psychotherapist.

I've started reading Richards Templar's Rules of Parenting. It's quite a light hearted read and is more about having a good attitude and aiming to be content and happy rather than actually following actual 'rules'.

I love reading them. I don't necessarily take everything in but I find them so interesting.

The ones that have really changed the way I think about things are the book you wish your parents had read - a lot of it was so obvious I couldn't believe it hadn't occurred to me (I love Philippa Perry though and really enjoyed her podcast chat with fearn cotton) and siblings without rivalry - I dip into it quite often just to remind myself of the general ideas.

I really enjoyed the danish parenting one too but probably because it sort of mirrored how I do things anyway.

Next on my list to read is how eskimos keep their babies warm - about different parenting styles from around the world.

I've read them all! 🤣 The explosive child probably helped the most. My eldest can be tricky. 😬

Calm parents happy kids by Dr laura markham.

I haven't read this but I read her website religiously, she's really really good so I imagine the book is too.

Alfie Kohn "Unconditional Parenting" is one I found really helpful and definitely had a positive impact on my relationship with my DC.

I found the "how to talk" books a little cheesy but as most of these books are American you sort of have to grin and bear that aspect!

Anything by Sarah Ockwell Smith. She's got a new parenting tweens one coming out soon.

Second How to Talk so Kids will listen. Awesome book.

Ohh loads of recommendations here, I’m away to read about them all and pick one 😬😬

I highly recommend this: amazon.co.uk/kp/embed?encoding=UTF8&asin=B07GRBB9WQ&ref=k4w_rwis_typ_GB&reshareId=P375BQ3T7MSHMSQ9CWZR&reshareChannel=system]]

The Rupture and Repair theory is both reassuring and inspiring.