To love my new body & OH doesn't ?

[spidermomma]

Don't actually give a F what he thinks, since my dc Iv just never been bothered to loose the baby weight i gained or to be bothered to be on a strict died ( I eat okay so that's fine)
Was only a stone so realisticly wasn't much but I finally put some meat on my horid scrawny legs, I have HIPS for once, I don't so much love the loose skin and stretch marks but I love that they was from my baby's so I don't care !
I love my new body and shape an size!

My oh constantly says I'm a fat and ugly and lazy and a slag.
ugly maybe,
fat? No but I'm now cuddly,
lazy I'm most certainly not, it's me who's up at 7 and doesn't sit down until bed time gone 11
Slag, wouldn't say so just because someone made me climax before I met you and you've never made me do this- doesn't make me a slag hun

I just wish he could put a sock in it and fucking choke on that smelly arse sock sometimes, I didn't ask for his opinion nor do I give a shit so shut up been a broken record telling me what you think??
I am in love with my body right now so go find this little barbie doll you so much longed for because it ain't me 🖕🏼

Sorry for the rant I'm just so annoyed hearing him xx

Your husband/partner calls you a slag.

Fucking hell me feet wouldn't touch the ground if I even thought of saying that.

Not very nice is he.

I read your other post OP on another thread, he is horrific and your situation with the children makes you more vulnerable than most. Are you married? Women's aid often have legal advice clinics run by solicitors for free, definitely worth checking. I'd imagine a lot are by zoom/teams at the moment which might actually be easier given your situation.

You clearly hate eachother..what a ridiculous and abusive relationship. I just feel sorry for the children

@DianaT1969
I love that T-shirt idea hahaha I'm guna order one 🤣
But no all dc are his,...

@Kittykat93 yea I feel sorry for them also. It isn't fair but at the moment I'm stuck. Not much I can do as Iv done all the right things it's now a waiting game for someone to agree to adaptations on a new property to go ahead.
That Doesn't happen over night unfortunately

All please feel free to judge. Wouldn't post if I didn't want to expect backlash.

Im judging so bite me.

Errr... I'm good thanks. Can't really bite you whilst maintaining social distancing

All well and good 'judging' but it's done now. Often these dickheads don't let the mask slip until you have children and they think you're trapped. OP seems like she's got her head screwed on and is feisty enough that he won't wear her down before she can get her shit together and leave.

Grim

@Sparklfairy thank you , I do I have so much on my plate he is the last thing that enters my head. Yes I won't lie it can sometimes get me down when I'm upset over the kids but hey he isn't anything. When he starts I walk away into another room an shut the door- probably winds him up more but luckily enough he doesn't follow and then that's that. He says his peace an it's done with!
I'm saving, Iv applied for new planning permission via council and applied for a new home so hopefully in the upcoming months we can leave. I'm slowly buying essential items for our new home then one day when he's out il follow and not return. My nans garage is slowly filling up of our things

Just wanted a rant as I'm really annoyed with it now, nothing else x

No they don't 'sound as bad as each other' Should she just post about how he is right and she's sorry and crying???

[quote spidermomma]@Sparklfairy thank you , I do I have so much on my plate he is the last thing that enters my head. Yes I won't lie it can sometimes get me down when I'm upset over the kids but hey he isn't anything. When he starts I walk away into another room an shut the door- probably winds him up more but luckily enough he doesn't follow and then that's that. He says his peace an it's done with!
I'm saving, Iv applied for new planning permission via council and applied for a new home so hopefully in the upcoming months we can leave. I'm slowly buying essential items for our new home then one day when he's out il follow and not return. My nans garage is slowly filling up of our things

Just wanted a rant as I'm really annoyed with it now, nothing else x[/quote]
You're doing great @spidermomma, and having been in a similar position I can tell you that being proactive and quietly moving forward is the best solution to this. Not only does it stop that helpless feeling if being trapped, but I'm sure you're also a little smug that you're making your getaway right under his nose and he has no idea

I'm slowly buying essential items for our new home then one day when he's out il follow and not return

I thought you said he was rarely around?

All well and good 'judging' but it's done now. Often these dickheads don't let the mask slipuntilyou have children and they think you're trapped

Well sometimes yet often the woman goes on to have more children, again and again. Thats what frustrates me about these threads, people do have choices. Sadly not the children born into and brought up in these destructive relationships.

@LagunaBubbles started when I was pregnant with my last child
@AriataBrown yes he is ? So one day when I have everything in place an he's gone. Il go to

@Sparklfairy so glad someone actually gets this! I do I literally just switch off and think of the outcome when he's on one some days. I do try to put the fake front on that I'm happy and okay to people because I don't want them to worry. I do have it under control. I'm not stupid I just have to bide my time to make sure me and the kids are okay for the long hall! We won't suffer in the long run. He will that's what I need remember. This is for my baby's to have a better life and be happy with their mum whilst they can be !!

Everyone is quick to judge yes but my oldest 2 are very seriously poorly, I can't just get up and leave it isn't that simple !

I have children, he is rarely around so that's irrelevant

You said he was rarely around

@AriataBrown right ??? Never said anything different either. I'm not sure what's hard to understand ??

No clearly I dont understand.

What is there to understand about that? Stop being a twat for no reason.

Wishing you all the luck in the world OP. Can be especially hard with children who have extra needs or disabilities x

Wow even if you were very overweight this wouldn't be acceptable. I'm fat and my partner tells me I'm beautiful. No partner should be talking to you like this. Why are you staying with him?

[quote spidermomma]@LagunaBubbles started when I was pregnant with my last child
@AriataBrown yes he is ? So one day when I have everything in place an he's gone. Il go to

@Sparklfairy so glad someone actually gets this! I do I literally just switch off and think of the outcome when he's on one some days. I do try to put the fake front on that I'm happy and okay to people because I don't want them to worry. I do have it under control. I'm not stupid I just have to bide my time to make sure me and the kids are okay for the long hall! We won't suffer in the long run. He will that's what I need remember. This is for my baby's to have a better life and be happy with their mum whilst they can be !!

Everyone is quick to judge yes but my oldest 2 are very seriously poorly, I can't just get up and leave it isn't that simple ! [/quote]
You and your children deserve so much more than this.
Don't give up , keep your nerve , you will get through this .
Those children are very lucky to have you , use all your inner strength .
Soon your new happy life will begin , don't look back and don't give that piece of shit a 2nd thought when it does .
Good luck.

@AriataBrown

No clearly I dont understand.

Dim AND goady is such a bad combination.

She will take her opportunity to leave when he is out. Which just happens to be a lot of the time. She's hardly gonna leave when he's there, especially if he's rarely around, so it's just a case of lining things up and leaving as soon as he goes out.

Got it now?

@MummytoCSJH @Plussizejumpsuit @tsmainsqueeze @Sparklfairy
Thank you all so much for your kind words
If I'm not strong then I wouldn't be able to fight the way I do for my kids. I'd give anything to have my baby's be okay but unfortunately I can't do that so I have to be strong, make sure they get the best they deserve and make sure their safe and happy whilst their here with me

Il do that with everything I bloody have and anyone who knows me knows this is a fact, I got told treatment for my son would be around 18months. I got it in 6 weeks. I don't give up easily or without a fight so it's easier for people to get things done or il be on their back lol so hopefully the plans I have happen sooner then I think ! Plus Iv always done everything on my own. He has no idea what I do for the kids or what battles I'm having at the moment with people over their care ! I'm stronger as myself and mummy. I now wake up with the thought "you can do this"
My motto is "pull up your granny pants, you can do this"

I'm Not the shit on his shoe he thinks I am! X

You rock!!! 👌👌👌