AIBU morning routine

[EastLondonMumma]

Inspired by various posts I've seen on here and debate with my DH, how do couples organise parenting in the mornings? Ie from wake up until work starts, and especially if DW is SAHM and DH is working?

50/50?
Or SAHP does the lions share to enable breadwinner to get ready for work?
Does the SAHP always get time to shower or do other stuff?

Forgot to say, we both shower in the morning, and tend to tag team so one of us is with the children whilst the other is showering,

Not a sahp, but dp and I work flexibly and take have the dc half each. Our assumption is that whoever has the dc will get them up and sorted, whoever's going to work just looks after themself.

I’m furloughed right now but work evenings usually. DH works out of the house. He leaves at 7am so generally doesn’t see us in the morning. When DC went through stage of early waking he would take them downstairs and give cereal/put tv on etc and I’d take over at 7 when he left.
He is home generally at 5 though so we then share from then. I cook, he clears up. We both tidy/interact with kids. Both usually go up at bedtime and we take it in turns to do bath time & we both read a story but we alternate which dc we read to. Part of me wishes he always “did” bedtime but then I feel that’s unfair as he’s been working all day. When I am at work he does story for both though as I have to leave by then.

I'm on mat leave, baby is 6m old. Also have 2yo and DP is wfh. Baby is bf and still wakes every 2-3 hours, 2yo sleeps through.

I get up when baby gets up, DP gets up when 2yo gets up, and gives him his breakfast. I take over both once I'm up, and DP brings me coffee when he has his tea break, and if I'm lucky it coincides with baby's first nap. I'm doing well to shower every second day at the moment. I look forward to baby sleeping through as getting up and getting ready before everyone wakes up sounds amazing!!

We do 50/50. Every other day. I work part time and we still do this. In my opinion looking after the kids is work and can be more emotionally draining in many ways. So getting an occasional lie in (8 instead of 6) and time to shower etc is only fair.

DH gets up, goes downstairs puts the kettle on, unpacks the dishwasher and gets the DC breakfast ready. I get myself and both DC ready then take them downstairs. DH has a shower and gets himself ready while I'm on the school run (not at the moment obviously). He also clears away the breakfast dishes before I come back. He then starts work and I get any housework and errands done. It's pretty similar during lockdown but the school run has been replaced with a short walk to the dining room for remote learning fun.

I still do most of the housework, childcare and school stuff but DH has flexible working so morning routine and bedtime are always 50:50.

DH is FT and starts earlier than me on the days that I work.

DH spends time with DS (playing Minecraft) and does his reading whilst I get ready. Then I supervise breakfast, hassle DS to get ready and take him to MIL’s/ get the home schooling ready.

I shower in the morning, DH at night.

It feels pretty even given the times we start work. If DS is being particularly faffy, DH will take over as he’s more patient than me.

@selectivemutism

Dh works he does majority of the childcare / getting them ready etc so I can get ready for the day at home his reasoning is that he can grab a few mins here and there at work for drink/food/toilet etc and I can’t with the little ones so he gets them up and ready etc does breakfast, quick tidy and makes me coffee while I get dressed etc

He sounds like a keeper @selectivemutism

SAHP does 100% in the morning.

My husband is out the door by 6am and not back till gone 7pm so mornings are always down to me. He does bedtime with the eldest

I’m a SAHM, my DH is working from home. He gets up with the children, takes them downstairs, gives them breakfast and makes the tea and coffee. Meanwhile, I shower and get myself dressed. Pre-school closure, he would bring them up, get their teeth brushed, and then I would take over getting them dressed and ready for school and out the door while he showered and started work. This was the same approach we took pre-covid when we were both working outside the house.
Now he doesn’t bother bringing them up to get ready. I go down once I’m dressed, drink my tea and then get them dressed and ready when it suits. Our mornings are a little more leisurely at the moment and I don’t like to disturb whatever they’re playing if it keeps them occupied and fills the day!
Children are 5yo twins and a 2yo.

ExH did fuck all.

The kids weren't even allowed in the living room until he left for work, even though he was up, dressed, eating his own breakfast and perfectly capable of pouring them a bowl of cereal each before he left the house.. but no, he left it for me to do.

My husband goes and gets DD when she wakes up, brings her to me, she watches a bit of cbeebies on my phone while DH gets ready and brings me a coffee in bed. They then both potter round while I get ready. I do breakfast usually. DH goes to work for 7.30, I am out of the house for 8. I work part time and at weekends we take a morning each for a lie in.

I have offered to bring DH a coffee in bed etc but he is naturally an early bird while I'm very much not, and when I get up with him (out of misplaced guilt) he gets visibly agitated because I don't feed the cat at exactly 6.35 or whatever

In lockdown it has shifted as DH doesn’t have his commute. He starts work about 7:30 and kids get up at 6. We have fallen into alternating lie ins 😍 by lie in, I mean the second parent to get up gets up before 7:30. But still! I usually get the kids dressed as they don’t get dressed until around 8. DH does bath and bed most days, some days I’ll be present but otherwise I’m cooking for me and DH. Loving it!

Currently on MATL but usually work full time as does DH. We take it in turns every night , one of us sleeps in with DD2 (9months bottle fed , terrible sleeper) and the other listens out for any shouting from DD1 (3years who to be fair normally sleeps through) . Whoever isn't with DD2 gets up with everyone and does breakfast etc while the other parent gets an extra hour in bed ( more at weekend) . Works well for us since DD2 is such a bad sleeper at least you know you get a good sleep every second night !
DH always baths both DD and puts DD1 to bed while I settle DD2 . We are pretty equal parents in terms of attitude overall. But I have done most of the day to day child care while on matl/Covid lockdowns ( not in U.K. and nursery's have been shut for ages ) which obviously is right but DH takes over and helps as soon as he finishes work and all weekend as well .